I'm going through something similar. It's pain that runs so deep. I'm sorry you have to go through that. The feeling that it is so unfair that you can be struggling so much, and they're out there seeing other people. It's frustration, confusion and just so damn painful

Did you ever think that him and his family may be very much alike? So being alike, they lie for each other and do dishonest things for each other. You know he tells so many lies, and any time you get a message from anyone about something like that, tell them you are getting divorced and not to call you again, and then block that person. This will eventually stop all his family and friends from ever bothering you again.

I do hope he moves on to someone else and I truly hope he connects with a woman who doesn't take bull and that when he treats her bad, she breaks up with him and has her family come and beat the crap out of him. It would be a great lesson for him in how he treats women for the future.

Him and his sister were trying to put one over on you and you didn't fall for it. They're trying to get him back together with you and he's going to be sucking you dry with your business and everything else.

Men like him feel power when they can control and demean women and make them cry.

Don't cry because he has someone new. Be happy and hopeful that he will start leaving you alone and stop stalking you.

Which part of your husband do you love?

The mentally abusive guy? The one who sexts your daughter? Maybe the stalker who comes to your house and job and disregards your restraining order? Ooooh wait, it's the guy who lies about having a heart attack.

He must've been one hell of a catch somewhere if everything else I listed wouldn't have helped you to stop loving him and sticking up for yourself.

Who cares if he lies? Seriously, is that a stretch? He's been lying for years now. It's time to put the focus back on you and you only. You have given way too much of your power to him.

You know, I actually understand why she feels that way. Everyone here knows my story. Everyone here knows what a dirtbag my husband is and how rotten he treated me. I cry too. It still hurts after six months and I really don't know why. I was doing so well then BOOM this engulfing rage just came over me, from nowhere. Why do we cry after everything they've done to us? Lord knows after what he's put me through I would rather see him scrubbing dumpsters than to be happy with someone else. How do you just "get over" the pain? How do you put it behind you?

I'm really sorry, needafriend. I know what you're going through. I know how painful it is. Take care of you.

I'm confused, I think TryingtoMakeit summed it up well

I think understand. You haven't let go of the love lie he gave you. I am betting the sweet nothings that happen on a regular basis after he's been mean and ugly to you. Am I very off track. The person who confided in you but pulled you into a trap of a weaving web. You weren't in love with the abusiveness this guy gave you but perhaps you are still in love with the notion that somewhere inside of him was a decent human being who just got lost along the way?

Every time you get upset about the fact that he MAY BE with someone else, don't think for one second that he will be happy with that woman. Men like this have a pattern. He likely told you he was miserable with you, he is miserable without you and he will be miserable in every single relationship he attempts to have after you. Don't feel bad about him...feel SORRY for HER, and the next one, and the next one...

Love yourself enough to know that you deserve better than this person. You are still being drawn to all that is toxic and it will never serve you well. What you feel for him may be what love means to you, but I can almost guarantee you will never feel what love, real love is, from this man. You need to step outside the weeds so you can see who this person really is, and how destructive and awful he is for you. Set your sights higher than the gutter. Take care.

Thankyou to you all. I haven't felt to good today. but I have so much support in all of you that keeps me strong. He is texting off. different numbers today. Trying to catch me out. I am blocking everyone of them and I won't be answering my phone to any numbers I don't recognise..

8 weeks is a long time to cry over someone worthless Needarie. Are you sitting at home re-living memories? 6 weeks ago I was so depressed, crying a lot. I identified that the triggers for this were checking emails and texts, looking for hope. Oh, he did come back all sweet as usual and full of promises. My ex was also a liar. I have lost count the number of broken promises. I hate lies. If a man can not be trusted to keep his word, would you trust him with your heart? with your life? Would he be there in times of illness? Think of the negatives about him rather than the positives. The positives would only open the wounds and increase your longing for him. All the best...

He was looking through my letterbox tonight. Wish i had something to squirt at him. Im writing everything down and telling the police. he was gone so quick .

Gee Needafriend, sounds like he's not right in the head! Can you borrow a huge Doberman dog to chase him? Or get a sling shot? i would!!

lol i recon he's not right in the head . He does not like it because he cant get to me now, and as hard as it is i got to keep moving forwards without looking back .

I am so sorry for all your pain and harassment.
It must be unbearable to live this way.
I still cry after 12 weeks of living apart
I feel such rage and abandonment every minute of each day....well a lot
I am obsessing
But I cannot imagine how terribly upsetting to have deal with what he is doing on top of all your grief

Big Hugs to you

If I caught him going through my mailbox, I would have run out with something to hit him with, like heavy fry pans and clunked him good in the head. My mailbox is locked, so no body can go through it (and you want to consider that).

If your letterbox is a slot in your door to slip your mail in, then arrange to have your mail dropped at your business or kept at the post office for you to pick up then seal the flap.

And report him to the police. You can't let him get away from anything. He's pushing hard and you have to push back harder.