I had a down couple of days too......please keep strong and remember that you are worthy of love that is not attached to what he has done to you and your daughter.

You deserve better than that.....please believe that. I will pray for you.

I understand too! I asked my husband to leave on a Friday 9 weeks ago so I'm only a couple of weeks ahead of you. My stbx is actually living at the OW house.....though he swears it's just a friendship. I call Bullshit because nothing else makes sense.

I still get periods where I wonder why this happened. I despise the OW, I think she won...which makes it worse but my mind knows I'm actually the winner. She thinks he's this mind mannered, funny man. Hey....wait till the first time he flips out on her! Mild tempered my ass.
Even today...all afternoon I've been tormenting myself with well they will all have each other this weekend while me and the kids still around dazed and confused. I don't know why I still do this from time to time but I promise they are getting further apart.....I didn't cry all week....a little today but not bad. So I'm getting there and you will too....

Until then you have me...and everyone else here to help support you and walk with you through this nightmare.

Hugs!
Deb

Don't start this "imaging him with somebody else." I can imagine him with Attila the Hun and Attila wasn't so kind and forgiving. Attila would have given you "bad ass lessons."

I am in another weekend of alones
People always busy and can't face a party I am being invited to
can't face a drive up north to visit friends
really want to stay home with my cats
But, yet so lonely and miss my wife, our life,,,the togetherness

alone..I mean

I feel for you.....I am at my 12 weeks abandoned and alone point

I didn't do anything to deserve this life I've been left with

ATB - LOL!

Yes, the whole "imagining him with someone else"....yeah, if you start thinking that, then also think "Good riddance, now he can be someone else's problem"

Surely you know he's a jerk, right, and he's not exactly a prize to win?

I understand you're hurting but, god, let him be someone else's mess. :)

Actually weekends are ok for me. My kid plays soccer and we find things to do. The week days are tougher when they are in school.

In work today . Who should walk in. My husband. I was looking at my phone and he said. Who are you texting? Is it a man? I said no. Go away or il call police. He left. Bit later he's looking at me through my work window. I didn't see him straight away. I was again looking at my phone. Strange how he came twice when I was doing something with my phone. Anyway. I looked up and there he was. He said . Who is that email off. I read all that then? No way could he have seen anything on my phone as he wasn't close enough. Even though he was pressed up to the glass windows. I told him to go away again. He left. What I was trying to do on my phone was to download a phone and text blocker so I could block him. He is crazy When I finished work today there was a note on my windscreen of my car. It said . I love you (my name) and only you. Please believe me. It's hard for me without that. Am bit better than yesterday though. My feeling are all over the place. He plays mind games

Letting your imagination (I like to refer to it as mental masturbation) run wild is only torturing yourself. Many times what we imagine is far worse than reality. I did that to myself too, thinking that "they" were doing everything we used to do together, wondering if he tells her how much he adores her like he used to tell me. I was only hurting myself. I already know that "she" isn't me and doesn't enjoy the things that he and I did together. The only thing I try to stay focused on now is the fact that someday this will all come crashing down on him like a ton a bricks. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when.

Here for you anytime you need to vent or want prayer. :) I don't allways have to give advice, I will just listen if you need me to. Hugs

he is stalking you
It is illegal and harassment

I am shocked why he is playing such games with you

To ad to all your stress and upset
I am so sorry

This is the consequences when you talk to him on the phone and let him into your home and give him sympathy. He tries to take over and control you.

You have to get your voice and that voice is a very loud NO so that others could hear from a far distance.

I believe you were allowed to call the police before if he came around because a group you went to you assisted you with that. I asked you to call that group that helped you and tell them you had talked to him on the phone and let him in. What did they say? How does that impact you calling the police again, and how long do you have to avoid calling the police on him? "