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He is obsessed and obsession makes people crazy.. You are doing all the right things now and should be really proud of your progress.
He could be dangerous so you should stay as far away from him as possible. and I know you are trying.to do that.

I know we are all with you here on this site.. and I know this will pass and you will be happy again and find someone that deserves you.

Don't let him get to you turn on music drown him out in your head.. talk to friends.. journal on here.. go see a movie with a freind.. stay busy..

If he comes near keep calling the police... sonner or later he will get it and you will be free of him.

Stay strong your doing great.

I agree with blusky 120% ....
He is at that "childish" state where he is obssessed and want to get his toy back. He will cry, yell, do ANYTHING to get it back. I know it's a horrible way of putting it but it's the truth.
He doesn't love you. He can say it a million times but the hard reality you need to know is this: he doesn't love you. His words might saybit but a person that loves you will let you be happy. You are a possession to him. And if someone stole my car I would try to get it back. Not because I'm in love with my car but because I own it. That's all you are to him. A possession. That's why he used you and did all those HORRIBLE things to you. He doesn't deserve to stand near your trash. That's how bad he was.
Sweetie you are doing great. It will take some time. But you deserve so much better. You are beautiful inside and out. I've seen your face and have had long conversations through messages with you so I can say kt reassuringly. You are a beautiful woman who deserves so much better. Please don't ever let him back into your life.
Big Hug my friend.

Also, he has lost his "control." He will fight to get it back. Keep calling the police on his and definitely filing charges against him.

It's part of human nature. People always want what they can't have. Keep doing what you are doing.....he will get the message.

I agree with the others. Hang on and things should get better. Keep your phone handy with the cops on speed dial. Maybe it wouldn't hurt to get s small container of mace to keep in your pocket, just in case.
If nothing else it should make you feel better.
Take good care of yourself.

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What would i do without you all. Spending time on here with all of you has helped me so much. I needed someone to give me an opinion on what i have been through. He was so clever at twisting things that i began to question myself. I kept taking him back and knew it was wrong, but the constant pressure from him and seeing him begging and crying , always got to me.
He is a clever man and likes to blame everyone but himself.
He wanted to share me. That was not love. The thing with him and my daughter [ his stepdaughter]. He didnt love me to do that . His constant accusations that i was seeing every man in the world was odd because he wanted to share me anyway and would probably had got a kick out of it if i had. Which i didnt. The control he had over me. He used to check my phone and he also put a tracker on it so he knew my every move. His constant texts and calls, which if i didnt answer he would want to know why. He always wanted to know who i was with if i wasnt with him. If i had a conversation with any man he would want to know details. If i had a workman in the house to do a job or a repair he would stay on the phone the whole time listening. Then i would be asked how old the workman was. He had a low opinion of me and i had done nothing but love this man in our 4 years of marriage. He didnt like me wearing anything revealing if he wasnt with me. I only ever went to work and came home every day. If i went anywhere , he would come with me. His forcing me to have sex when i didnt want to. He wanted it all the time and it wore me down. Now thanx to all you people , you have given me the courage to not let him back into my life.
I still have a long way to go yet. Every day without him is a step further to me getting stronger. He controlled me so much and he could be this sweet man one minute who i loved, to this controlling person that i didnt love. I have never been able to open up about any of this before and struggled alone, wondering if it was me that was at fault. I couldnt tell my family and dont have any friends, so i had to try deal with this myself. He would confuse me and even helped me set up my own buisness, He played mind games with me and i fell for it all.

And now you are taking back your dignity, control, and self worth. So leave all this behind and look toward the future. You can do it my friend. I know you can and already are doing it.
Great Job!!

I'm so glad you're here. Keep posting!

These realizations you're making are so hard and so overwhelming, the strength you show by seeing all of this is amazing. Every realization, every thought, please keep putting it out there. By keeping things to yourself you'll minimize how important they are. You need to keep that strength up!

keep getting stronger and know all of us are thinking of you.....I am so sorry that you have to go through this. My heart aches knowing how all of us are suffering. Prayers to you.

I am so sorry you are still hurting----BUT-----
I am so very glad you are here too. I am very happy that you are seeing him for what he is.
I am also happy that you have left him. It is the very biggest gift you have ever given yourself. You, at least have a good chance at having a happy life. With him, it appears there would have been misery.
Sounds like you may be up to a few celebrations soon.
Time to count your blessings for all the good things in your life!!!!
Everything will get better

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I agree with the others. By the way--skip the mace and go with the pepper spray. I read an article and the pepper spray actually is harsher and causes inflammation causing eyes to close. That's what you want. A big can of "whoop ass" called pepper spray.

And we have to teach you that when he gets close to you again, to knee him in the crotch because a knee to the nads is "the gift that keeps on giving" and he won't want to get close to you again.

please stay safe. If you see him, call the police and have him removed from your area.

Bluesky and animalit, said it perfectly. He is throwing a tantrum because he didn't get his way like a spoiled brat. He is selfish, and love is not selfish. It's selfless and sacrificial and loyal and honest and gentle and giving. All of which he's not. You are. You desrve and will find someone so much better! You are being so strong right now. Don't let him see your fear. He's trying to bully and intimidate you bc he's insecure and doesn't want anyone else o have you. Not because he loves you and wants you. He may be in denial, and actually believe that he loves you and would do anything for you. But you know the truth and see him clearly for what he is. Those who lie to their loved ones, usually lie to themselves too. I totally understand. Big hug. Glad you and animalit are such good friends and can support each other. That's important and a blessing to you both.

You are all so kind. Thank you. Like I said. I still have long way to go. I hope the councilling I get helps me through this to. It is so lonely but I know deep down that I must keep on fighting. I'm seeing my old self coming back slowly. It's so nice to come home from work and be at ease. Knowing I don't have to do what he wants every day. I can come and go as I please. I can shower in peace without him standing there watching. Making me feel uncomfortable. I can go to bed without him making demands on me. I don't think it's him I actually miss at times. I think I miss what should have been and not what he turned out to be