Hey Sunshine,

Sounds tough. How about finding something else to occupy the time? Instead of calling him, read a book or something to get your mind off it. Not sure how long its been but it does get easier. Hang in there and I wish you the best!!

Why do you feel like you won't find anyone else? The worst thing to do is jump into a new relationship if you are still healing from the old one.

First of all you have to think about the emotional pain your are having now, and decide if you want to coninually go through this again and again in your life. Past behavior is somewhat a good predictor of future activity. You are a good person, and deserve to be happy. Turning back to an individual that has hurt you, and will in all probability do it again, will only further your misery, and prevent you from healing. Be strong, and find clarity within yourself. Know that you deserve better! Be strong in your faith, and ask " God" to help you through. In a weak moment, it is easy to slip, and fall backwards, and bargain with their prior relationship to avoid the agony of lonelliness, and fear. But, in time, when the similar situation arises again, and that person repeatedly inflicts more emotional helll on you, you will regret going backwards, and not having severed the relationship all together. You will find someone that is right for you in time, and you will be truly happy without all the suffering and doubts that you have had in the past. Stay strong!! Spirit reader!

Hi Sunshine!
Your life and your happiness does not revolve around whether or not youre in a relationship. Work on YOU, and the right -and healthy- relationship will follow.
Start learning HOW to make yourself happy. It will be tough at first, but youll establish new routines and be able to focus solely on what you want and enjoy.
Learn something new- knitting, or cake decorating or painting.
Volunteer - animal shelters if you like pets. You can most likely find a list of volunteer opportunities in your area if you google it. Its very rewarding and a great way to meet new people, which can also help occupy your time.
My favorite- Exercise! Youll feel great afterward, youll sleep better, youll enjoy the benefits of the results, and exercise releases endorphins in the brain to relieve stress. You can take a yoga or martial arts class. If youre strapped for cash, running is free.

In the end, youll walk away with new skills that will give you a huge boost to your confidence and self esteem, which is invaluable compared to that which we get in a relationship (especially a broken one).
Good luck :)

You could go Pavlov.

Put a rubber band on your wrist, and anytime you think about contact, or going back, snap it.

I'd also look at working on you, and being good enough for yourself, instead of gazing toward being a part of something. You have to be a healthy you, before you become a part of something else.

You are all sooo right. I do know the right things to do, but actually doing them is the hard part. I start school in a couple of weeks and I'm really looking forward to it. It makes me feel so good about me!! I also see a couselor regularly!! Thanks for the reminders. I need them :) HAPPY FRIDAY!!!