Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Jgarc 06/23/2013

Here I am its 6 pm and I am in the room, sleeping and watching tv here and there. I was worse than i was yesterday. Its only been two days since he left...cowardly when i was at work. Why cant I hate him? I feel so alone. I had so many dreams and hopes that no longer seem attainable.

It kills me to know that he is happy. So many thoughts are running through my head, what if he is with someone else? Happy? Why do I have to be going through this. Evrything reminds me of him. How do u get through this?

What if this is my only chance of being happy. All i want to do is contact him and tell him i love him. That all i want is for him to come back.

I am so sorry i am just rambling...but i just have so many emotions...i cant stop loving him no matter how evil he is. Why? When will i be happy again? I need to go to therapy asap.

deleted_user 06/23/2013

i suggest that you call a friend and go visit them. being around friends and family is good for us at a time like this.

deleted_user 06/23/2013

Great advice,
clean up the house, make your own space, talk with friends.

Don't be miserable he is not worth it.
The sooner you realize that the better.

ChiTownBear 06/23/2013

I think we have all said that at a time or two. Its normal to be all over the place and have the thoughts you do. but you have to remember, you don't know if he is happy. Or what he is even doing. You are only going to drive yourself further down by thinking about that. I know, its not easy to not think that way. I know I did the same thing. But as the dust settles you are going to find that those questions will be irrelevant as you move on and realize what was really best for you.

gem111 06/23/2013

I am so very sorry this happened to you. The grieving process takes time and it is different with everybody.
I really wish you well and maybe practicing some self care would help. Treat yourself every day to something special. It doesn't have to be expensive. it could even be a walk in the park or at the beach.
A bubble bath or a movie, just anything you would like to do.
I wish you well!!!!

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

deleted_user 06/23/2013

(First post).

I know exactly how you feel. The loss of a future I built up in my mind is as bad as actually not being with her.

I thought the same things about trying to negotiate and talk sense into her. It doesnt work sadly. I dint suggest contacting him at this moment, itll make it hurt worse and youll be back to square one of thr process.

deleted_user 06/24/2013

I'm sorry you're going through this. It hurts! Just know you aren't alone in feeling these things; most of us here have been there.

Try to keep busy. Volunteer. Take a class. Learn a new hobby ( like knitting, etc.) Get outside. Spend time with kids and animals (they'll make you laugh!)

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