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3:30 am

1Daatatime
1Daatatime

Woke up at 3:30 am again. Seems my internal clock is screwed up. I can't beleive the love of my life has left me after 21 years. I wish I could hate her so I had a place to focus my anger. The truth is she's a wonderful person that has fallen out of love with another wonderful person. I blame it on menapause and our age difference. If only she would have communicated years ago when she said it began. I used to be the president of a large comapny and I think she was in love with the powerful executive and now I'm just a cattle farmer, wearing overalls instead of a suit, living in the middle of nowhere with no one.


I'm doing better today. Fewer crying jags and fewers thoughts of suicide. I try and work myself to the point of exhaustion and then I add a workout into that but it doesn't help much other than I've lost 15 lbs in two weeks.

CrushedDad
CrushedDad
My wife fell out of love with me after 18 years. I lost the weight too. We need to take care of ourselves to better handle what's coming and to respond with growth and healing of our own lives. God Bless you.
manuel313
manuel313
i can only imagine what you are going through coz my wife left after six years and you are talking about 21 years...i can relate to the bad sleeping pattern coz i also go to bed at 12 or 1 am and am up by 3:30 or 4 am... what has helped me for the last 3 days has been chatting with people coz am not even a social guy...i still feel like marriage is crap and all women are cheats..factoring that mine was (in as much as i know this is not true)...so for me the chatting help with the thoughts but am yet to figure out how to handle sleep and appetite
STex
STex
25 years of marriage here, 6 weeks in, lost 38lbs, 2-3 hrs of sleep per night, crying the whole nine yards.....YOU ARE NOT ALONE BROTHER. My anxiety was through the roof yesterday, chatting on here really helped, by the evening I felt much better. Talking helps. Refocusing your thoughts off the negative onto the positive (I know its hard sometimes it happens sometimes it is impossible) Just minute by minute, keep talking and pushing forward.
mirandac
mirandac
There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

After the decree and divorce are done
The healing can truly begin. Its still not
easy But its over and your heart knows
It Even though it might not like it.

No more hoping for a change of heart and
A big turn around. Its done and now i need
To move on and figure out life out as a single.

The rest isn't any easier just different and no
More legals, financials and lawyers. That Is
something just to get thru and survive sane.
HUGS