In exactly the same place I feel like I have to be a fault two failed marriages I'm gutted and don't think he even understands acting as if nothing get has happened so my son doesn't get upset I'm a wreck can't stop crying feel useless xx

How long have you been married? I didn't get to 3 yrs either time

I'm not in the same situation as you but I definitely understand the sense of failure and it impacting every aspect of your being.

Stay strong and good luck.

Please take strength and shelter from the storm.

Thank you all x

I'm in the same position my self my second wife left yesterday I'm I fell a failure all over again

It's just awful to have been taken for granted twice!! Once is bad enough but twice!!! I can't help but think it's me but my friends & family assure me it's not & my logical brain says the same but my heart tells me I have been a fool for believing in love.

Speechless1000~You are not a fool for believing in love. Its good that you have your friends and family to help you through this time in your life. A support system is so important! I hope that you are able to heal and learn and grow as you walk forward with your son in life. When relationships don't work out it can be tempting to focus on everything negative and turn the blame game inward. But don't do it! Another approach is to journal daily and get your emotions out in a healthy way so that you can focus on the good things in life with your son. I'm not sure if the papers have been filed or if you are just taking some time apart from your husband to figure things out right now. Either way, please be encouraged that relationships take two people to work. Its never all just one person's fault. We're all human and we all have areas we can improve in. Whatever happens in the future, you have a beautiful child and a lot of love from friends and family. Don't give up hope. Things can change for the better, and I've seen it happen many times. I'm praying for you. ~Blessings Friend

Thank you for your kind words xx

I have been married twice. My 1st marriage lasted 20 years, 4 kids. My 2nd marriage lasted 7 years and he bailed. I never wanted to be divorced ever so I stuck it out in my 1st marriage as long as I could (he was a controller, mean, narcissist, etc) so I divorced him. My 2nd one I thought I had found my forever, he had other plans which eventually brought me to DS with a broken heart and no hope for surviving, sigh. I never planned to start over at 54, but here I am by no choice of my own.

What I have found during this journey is that two marriages and unfortunately divorces are almost the norm. Marriage is tough and yes, we still believe in love so there is nothing wrong with us for caring so much. It's hard but there is life after divorce (even a 2nd one!!!) I had a wise counselor tell me I could stew and dwell on my failed marriage and think he is the ONLY one for me and never recover OR I could just say "well, that sucked" and move on. With time, I have chosen the 2nd option, it hasn't been easy but we just need to look at it as part of our life book, its just a few short chapters and doesn't end our story, we have many more chapters to write and experience, some good, some not so good but it is our story, why not make it a happy one?

Will I try for a third relationship, only time will tell. At one time I thought I might (I was so happy in my 2nd marriage and loved being married) but I am really afraid of getting my heart broken again and so for now I am living happily single, it's not so bad actually.

I too on my second marriage. I know it takes two and I know I am not perfect. I didn't deserve this. My friends and family say it was his. I just keep picking them wrong. Oh well good luck. I am not liking the single life. Trying to move on.

Thank you ladies it's comforting to know I'm not alone. I very much appreciate you responding I was single for years before my 1st husband so I'm ok with single I'm just not ok with loving a man who never deserved me. Much kindness to you & again thank you xxxx

hello Speechless1000. I'm twice divorced as well. The first one was quite devastating while the second...well, I was just thankful for it to be over and done. Your last comment there assures me you'll be fine as it appears you do not need a partner to find happiness in life. I did not have the experience of living alone, so I had to learn how to be happy with me in my early 30's with three kids. Do not throw in the towel just yet; take some time to figure out what makes you happy, set some goals, do the things that make you happy while chasing those goals and eventually a partner who shares those activities and supports your goals will happen along. You are not a failure!