Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
March 4, 2007, I met the man of my dreams.... I have nothing bad to say about him except he just broke my heart Feb 10, 2013.
We had almost 6 great years together and up until 3 weeks ago January 26th. We found a house that we loved, he went as far as to put his house on the market to sell, as the house we lived in, is very cramped. He got pre-approved and everything. Then he changed his mind. He said he cannot sell and is not ready yet, meanwhile all this was his idea. We went to the Bahamas the first week of Feb, got back on the eighth. On the 10th he broke up with me, stating I don't hear him when he says things, that we do not want the same things and etc. then on the 18th, I moved out and in with a girlfriend. I went to get the rest of my things from his house on the 22nd and I asked him WTF... He stated that we have a chemistry imbalance and that he had been feeling this way for a couple of years. He stated, that I was great and etc and that he should want to marry me but, those feelings are not there for me. He is divorced and said. I have had the I want to get married feeling in the past and that he had the feeling when he married his wife, now divorced. He said he had that I want to get married feeling one other time with a girlfriend, he never asked her to marry him, they broke up. So, he said, he knows what the feeling should feel like.
We had almost 6 great years together and up until 3 weeks ago January 26th. We found a house that we loved, he went as far as to put his house on the market to sell, as the house we lived in, is very cramped. He got pre-approved and everything. Then he changed his mind. He said he cannot sell and is not ready yet, meanwhile all this was his idea. We went to the Bahamas the first week of Feb, got back on the eighth. On the 10th he broke up with me, stating I don't hear him when he says things, that we do not want the same things and etc. then on the 18th, I moved out and in with a girlfriend. I went to get the rest of my things from his house on the 22nd and I asked him WTF... He stated that we have a chemistry imbalance and that he had been feeling this way for a couple of years. He stated, that I was great and etc and that he should want to marry me but, those feelings are not there for me. He is divorced and said. I have had the I want to get married feeling in the past and that he had the feeling when he married his wife, now divorced. He said he had that I want to get married feeling one other time with a girlfriend, he never asked her to marry him, they broke up. So, he said, he knows what the feeling should feel like.
"He stated that we have a chemistry imbalance and that he had been feeling this way for a couple of years. He stated, that I was great and etc and that he should want to marry me but, those feelings are not there for me. He is divorced and said. I have had the I want to get married feeling in the past and that he had the feeling when he married his wife, now divorced. He said he had that I want to get married feeling one other time with a girlfriend, he never asked her to marry him, they broke up. So, he said, he knows what the feeling should feel like"
is irrelevant.
If anything, his remark "On the 10th he broke up with me, stating I don't hear him when he says things, that we do not want the same things and etc," is likely the root of the issue.
Whether this is accurate or not is also irrelevant, as many people make excuses to end relationships. Frankly, the above reason does not seem substantial enough.....unless it was previously communicated to you.
Again, at this juncture ....irrelevant. For WHATEVER reason, he wants to terminate the relationship. Painful as it is, it's his choice.
Now, it's necessary for you to recover from this.
It is painful and I'm sorry you went through this, but I'm glad you are not with him because I believe he will need therapy before he is able to remain with any one women
Keep this in mind -- God has something BETTER in mind for you. It does make a difference. Having finally sold my farm (where I have lived for 25 years) I am packing to move 1,100 miles away and looking forward to it.
Life is a journey with lots of twists and turns. I guarantee you that in six months to a year, this guy won't even be a blip on your radar screen anymore.
Chin up and focus on what YOU want and making yourself happy! xoxo
I do find it cowardly when people use cliche's or "terms" that are not really relevant to why they are ending things. Shit, just say you can't do it instead of making shit up.
I know its hard and is probably confusing for you, in time, you will probably find out the real reason and at that time, it probably won't really matter to you.
Best of luck as you move towards your future.
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