Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I really need some support and advice please, if you could take one minute I would really appreciate it.
I posted recently about my ex. He was having issues regarding his child and ex. We met up for a talk and for me to collect my stuff from his place. He was in bits, very upset. He explained his confusion stems from a terrible guilt he feels regarding his past. He feels it is his fault his child hasn't got a "proper" family.
Long story short, he is going to get some advice and therapy about dealing with his feelings of guilt and fear or being a bad father. He genuinely explained that he loves me but can't balance a relationship and deal with these issues.
We decided to take a few months apart, work on out separate issues and then talk about possibly reconciling and working on us.
My issue now is still that massive hole in my life now that he's not in it. I thought our amicable and loving chat would make it easier. I truly believe he wants what's best for me, he doesn't think he's a good person but he really is a good man. Even unpacking my stuff from his house made me break down in tears as everything smelt of him. I don't know how to get through these next few weeks and months.
I am afraid. Afraid if he does go to therapy he may realise he doesn't want me in his life. Or he will forget about me. I know we need time apart if we are ever to come back together stronger but I am really struggling. I love him so much.
Please anyone if you can advise me on how to better myself, make this time worth while and ease the pain. I have a good support network of family and friends who support my decision but I want some advice on how you guys make it through this time. I'm currently off work I cannot face being there.
Thank you all x
I posted recently about my ex. He was having issues regarding his child and ex. We met up for a talk and for me to collect my stuff from his place. He was in bits, very upset. He explained his confusion stems from a terrible guilt he feels regarding his past. He feels it is his fault his child hasn't got a "proper" family.
Long story short, he is going to get some advice and therapy about dealing with his feelings of guilt and fear or being a bad father. He genuinely explained that he loves me but can't balance a relationship and deal with these issues.
We decided to take a few months apart, work on out separate issues and then talk about possibly reconciling and working on us.
My issue now is still that massive hole in my life now that he's not in it. I thought our amicable and loving chat would make it easier. I truly believe he wants what's best for me, he doesn't think he's a good person but he really is a good man. Even unpacking my stuff from his house made me break down in tears as everything smelt of him. I don't know how to get through these next few weeks and months.
I am afraid. Afraid if he does go to therapy he may realise he doesn't want me in his life. Or he will forget about me. I know we need time apart if we are ever to come back together stronger but I am really struggling. I love him so much.
Please anyone if you can advise me on how to better myself, make this time worth while and ease the pain. I have a good support network of family and friends who support my decision but I want some advice on how you guys make it through this time. I'm currently off work I cannot face being there.
Thank you all x
I dont think you should put your life on hold! You are a beautiful person that deserves to live a happy life! How do you know you wont miss out on someone so much better then him? I mean if you sit around waiting for him to take you back then you are giving him all the power to decide your life and fate.
I can only comment from living my life and tell you how it worked out. I waited 5 years for someone I thought was my soulmate. In the end she used me BIG TIME and stole money from me promising to pay it back. I ended up devistated, broke, and alone. Not to mention I wasted 5 years of my life for her. :( So you will do what you want to, but I suggest you try to take this time to live your life for yourself and not sit around and wait. Life is too short to waste on someone that makes us the option!
Best of Luck !
I'm in a celebrate recovery group there are a few that are working through abandonment issues so it certainly is not all about addicts although addicts are there also. I work on boundaries and codependency. In this group I have a sponsor that meets with me once a week and accountability people to help me with my boundaries, I exercise every day. I have an amazing place to walk in nature that I love. I also am trying to make time for other things I enjoy although I have three kids right now. I listen to guided meditation and I look for as much support as I can get. You deserve to be valued and have worth in a relationship but you have to start by treating yourself that way. I would go no contact and look up how to do that. If he comes back then decide if you want him. You might find that after working on yourself and loving you again that you don't want a relationship that isn't mutual.
If he says he isn't a good man.....believe him.