i think it's nice you want to wait. i'm not really sure what to say, but i feel for ya. :)

I can't lie to you. If someone gave me that option, in my mind it would mean she totally did not care about me and was looking for someone else. I would be gone in a heartbeat.

I think you are very gracious to wait while she is getting well.
oh boy. i would not be for an open marriage. it is simply saying affairs are ok. does she feel she can have her cake and eat it also?

if my husband told me he was sexting other women while he was still married to me id wan't to end it also , whats the point of getting married if you are going to mess with other people, i believe the point of marriage is to pledge your love , loyalty , and respect to another person and that person only its about commitment , so internet daddy as i call you i have never been married but shes just down right wronging you

If the relationship you want to have with someone who is your wife, is not one that is an open marriage, then you know the answer, you just have to make the move then.

If my wife, girlfriend or even someone I was seeing, told me she was sexting other guys, wanting to date others, etc. I would end it as I do not want to be with someone who wants to be with others at the same time they are with me.

So you have to do what you need to in order to have the relationship you want, not what someone else wants.

As for staying with her during his healing, mighty nice of you, but why are you doing it? She has already told you what she wanted, you already know what you want so why stay? Are you hoping that in the time she is healing that things may change? If so, then my next question would be, are you sure you want to be with someone who has disrespected your marriage, trust and well being so to be turned on by another man?

what would make you the bad guy? because you put up a profile on plenty of fish? Personally I would end things and then move on to find your happiness, she is the one giving the ultimatum- open marriage or split up- is this open marriage supposed to go both ways? or is it just her that is supposed to be able to be with someone else? If you aren't interested in this arrangement- move on. You aren't the bad guy if you leave but to those who come across your profile they might not think you are a good guy if you are looking for someone else while currently married and living with your wife. I get that you did it so she would see it- maybe you aren't even really interested in meeting someone new at this point- but people you know might see it and judge YOU for it.

galaxy its not that i want to wait but i have to

Gem, thanks i would be but my home situation makes it difficult

dumpee thats exactly what i texted her telling her

Chi town, i have two daughters one is special needs, she has aspergers running out the door fast to end it, would be bad for her progress, so i have to do things with kid gloves. so as much as i hate my situation i have to do things the way i do to protect my kids

Hi Get: I don't think you need anyone to tell you if you are wrong. I think you have always been right on and had good gut feelings and knew what you had to do. Continue with your feelings because they tell you the truth.