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GuyInDarkness
GuyInDarkness
going to see my ex today, im very nervous.. i feel my gut squeezing.. theres so much i want to talk about with her, but i know if i try and talk with her about things, she probably going to get angry. idk what i should do about talking with her with the issues i need to know.. im just so nervous and confused about what to do or say..
deleted_user
deleted_user
What are you seeing each other for? and what was the reason for the split?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Try to relax and breath.

Perhaps there is a way to frame your conversation so as to not put her on the defensive and still get some answers for yourself.

Maybe a letter would be better so you could be sure to say all that you need to say?

It's hard. No doubt.
Good luck.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Often times when I need to say something emotionally charged, I wrote down the points I want to discuss on an index card and take it with me to the discussion. That way, I don't get sidetracked by my emotions. Trust me, when you are speaking from your emotions, you WILL FORGET all the things you want to address. But if you write them down calmly beforehand, you're more likely to remember the items you would like to address. This works for me. Wish you the best.