hey I am in the same boat
everyday something will happen and i ll go to text him.
he was my bestfriend and i feel like I ve lost my arm!!!
it should get better so they say lets hope soon hey
xxxxxxx

What you need to do is love yourself. Then you'll never be lonely because you'll always have someone that loves you with you... YOU.

You don't need a man to define you. You just think you do.

Work on you - be gentle with yourself, rest, meditate, BREATHE.

It's hard, I know. But it does get better. You can always come here - there's always someone here to lend an ear and some comfort and advise.

I've been separated for 6 months. It does get better. The loneliness subsides. But there are still little things though. For instance, my tire needs air. He used to do that. I've been driving around with a semi-inflated tire for weeks now. Not because I can't figure it out myself or take it somewhere but right now, especially during the holidays, I can't bear to acknowledge that he's not around anymore. :(

you said you pretty much rely on him, do you think this has anything to do with the break-up? Alot of men , including my husband like to be depended on but don't like a needy woman. A confident and dependent woman is a very attractive thing o be. Maybe it's time to start being your own person. Don't cry out to him how much you miss him and need him as it can be a huge turn off for some but rather show him you can do just find without him and 9 times out of 10 he'll be uncomfortable with that and come back to you.....it's jus how some of them work

Thank you all for your support! It is very true that we don't need to rely on a man and we must love ourselve...I am working on loving myself and hopefully things will fall back into place!

I've been seeing this guy since my divorce. Its been nearly 3 months now and we are still not official, still not exclusive. There are times when the impatient side of me wants to stand up and shout for him to just be with me already but if I learned anything from my failed marriage, that was not be needy. I was very needy with my ex husband. I depended on him for anything and everything. In a way I became a drain on hIm. In the end, we divorced bc he was cheating on me.
Now this new guy I've been seeing, although I want to be with him, I am not needy of him. This attracts him to me. The woman who can stand on her own two feet is very appealling to a man. I've been doing a lot of reading from self help books on how to be a better me.
I used to believe that my happiness depended on being with someone and having someone. This would give me severe panic attacks bc I didn't know how to function being alone. Through the help of books, friends and support groups I have found a new self confidence in myself. I want a man but I do not *need* a man.
It has been a long journey for me to get to where I am now. I understand the loneliness. Its hard. This new guy I'm seeing, because our schedules are night and day, I rarely see him, most of our contact is via talking or texting. But that's okay bc this way there is no pressure on either of us and we are able to build a good friendship while building a strong foundation when we do start working towards something serious.
Keep focused on you and repeat to yourself over and over again that things are okay. Keep saying it until you believe it. It does work.
P.s. I apologize for any spelling or grammar errors, I did this from my phone.

Thank you sooo much for your words! You are exactly right that neediness is a turn off, and that us women need to be dependent and rely on yourself. I might have to check out some of these books, but your post really helped and opened my eyes.

neediness is definitely a turn off. But it's so hard to stop! I know I have put myself in that role with my ex. I am the annoying ex who won't leave him alone. I can usually go about 10 days before I feel the need to contact him. My neediness helped to push him away though.

It's funny because I was never needy before him. I was strong, and confident, and independent. Now I am scared of everything. It takes time though. Everyone is right though, you need to learn to love yourself before someone else can truly love you. My ex and I both had low self-esteem and insecurities that became horrible for both of us.

I feel the same way too. She was everything to me and now I have to relearn how to be independent. It's not easy but I know I can do it.

This really brightened my eyes, thank you all so much!

winesar....I now exactly how you feel. My husband just moved out 2 weeks ago and until tonight I thought I was doing alright. But my daughter is staying with my husband at his apartment for the first time tonight and I'm alone, staring at my Christmas tree just thinking about how sad and lonely I feel. I know that our separating was definitely the right thing to do but I feel like I've lost my best friend and am scared that I'm always going to feel this alone and scared. I have great friends, but just its different. I always felt lie I could tell him anything, nad I fel lie I have to censor myself some with my friends.
I know it will get better for you and for me, but in the mean time, know that you're not alone, we are all here with you.
Hugs to you

I know it was the right thing to do to, but youre right it's just hard adjusting. Thank you for all your support!