Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Having some difficulty in letting go. The divorce was my idea, and I know I made the right decision for me. I was no longer happy and was not getting the emotional support that I needed from a husband. Ironically though, when I found out the divorce was final, I started crying and have been sad since. I started remembering the good times we had and started worrying about who is going to take care of him when he is old, etc. These are things I have no control of, but I can't stop worrying. Is this normal? And we are still on speaking terms, actually we talk almost every day. So I guess it takes a while to figure out boundaries and interaction after a divorce if you still get along, right???
The emotional divorce takes time to go through and is just as important as the legal divorce--sometimes I think even more so. You may find drawing boundaries is most helpful to your healing.
I think your feelings are normal. You put a lot of energy making a decision and taking actions through the divorce. When it is legally final, you have time to really think. I understand you remember the good times you had. You should be thinking about who is going to take care of you when you get old. You need some quiet time and space for yourself. Getting used to a single life takes adjustment. Adjustment is not easy. It takes time. When you are used to the new routine, things will get easier.
Take good care.