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Well, where to start?
On my 14th Anniversary he decided to tell me he wants to separate...not only that but 2 weeks after he says to me that after 2 years of that he wants divorce but in the past month and half since that happened we have made love like before either because he wanted it or because I wanted it, though he still wants to moved out and keep saying that he loves me but he is not in love? yet he hugs me and care about ME? he says all he need is time away and he even says he might loose by doing that but he need to be true to himself I said to him I'll be here waiting for him no matter what because I truly love him...and he is the only one, I have begged him to stay, to counseling, church but his answered is always the same he can do it but he wont change his mind of moving out....forgot to say he is 13 years older than me and that the first time he mentioned separation back in Sept last year he said to me that I am so beautiful and that he feels that I am not Happy and that he is not happy because of that I assure him I am and that I LOVE HIM and I was(am) HAPPY asked him do you love me ? he said yes! so I said no worries we can do this......December he gave me the most beautiful and very touchy Christmas card saying he love me and how wonderful mother and wife I am..... January this year he planned and romantic night out at a local hotel..... and February our Anniversary he wants to separate???? and just yesterday I find out he has filed a legal separation...., I was so mad and sad I felt betrayed went out for a walk came back home... I kissed him good night and told him that no matter what I love him and we had sex because I wanted it not sure why??? well, I love him and I know thats a way we connect, all day today I have been tired, weird and wondering if it was ok?
Anyone can help or give thoughts??????????
I am so sorry that this is so painful... it is probably best to let him go. If he is still having sex with you, then he is still interested, just doesn’t want to live together for whatever reason.
He might want this now, but when you start dating other people he may change his tune, because sometimes people don’t see what they are giving up, until someone else wants it.
So, don’t beg him to stay.. let him leave.
I have ask him about the affair and I know him for so long I don't think it is though on the back of my mind is a doubt?, everyday day he still kissed me before he goes to work I am still sleep and at night when I get home from work he still hugs me kiss me ?, I don't know. I know I need to let him go but is hard I am not sure how I reach out to this group because reality is I don't have any friends that I can go to or tell them whats going on because my husband have always been so great to me.
He almost cried with me and hugged really thigh when I told him "Who is going to hug me and protect me and make feel safe and secure the way you do? who I will talk to when I get home? all he said was " you are a strong beautiful woman, very smart and I will help you, I want you to be good" but I need this ... the plan is to separated for 2 years and file for divorce after that time...
it is possible that he found someone else.
Go to a lawyer.
I know you are hurting, but I feel like he is hiding something from you.
There is something very special about the man that you are married to, He knows you very very well, He said something to you that you need to pay
very close attention to He said that you are a very Strong woman,beautiful and Very Smart.He is wise that he is advising you and trying to be a friend to you whilst doing so,
When you get past your own emotions which is hard for all women to do-then you can understand the truth in what I am about to say to you,
Most people wont ever in this lifetime discern the True definition of love,
If you truly Love "Love"- when it asks you to let itself Go you have no choice
but to do it and you do it in a loving manner. It is not cruel if someone wants
to leave- he is upfront and honest A lot of people do not have the respect
to sit you down and try to relay this painful info and try to do it in a loving manner.
Understand that you need to meditate and release him to the Universe.
In doing this (even through tears) the Universe delivers your request and
prepares you for the destiny that Truly is for You, The words were delivered
to you that this will happen THROUGH your husband when he said you will be fine, he will help you, You are Beautiful, You are smart, You will be fine,
Please begin the process of releasing him with the help of the Universe to
comfort and fill you abundantly,
Truthfully you cannot hold on to what is trying to let go and be unscathed while doing so, Begin this process so you can begin your healing process
and such.
Love Light Peace
We had also taken a romantic wine tasting weekend a couple of weeks before as well as a Las Vegas weekend. She initially denied an affair but I discovered the truth through our phone bill. I begged, wrote letters, asked her to go to counseling to no avail. We are now divorced and I have moved on. After 12 years together it was very hard at times but life goes on. Love yourself and know that happiness awaits you. Hope this helps.