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Acceptance

playerapr
playerapr
I fought so hard, forgave time after time, did everything I could, held on to hope but I think I might've reach the acceptance stage. Acceptance that their is not going to be an us anymore, that I'm heartbroken but my heart will heal, that even though I'm broken now I will find love again, that I deserve better.
As much as I love him and I miss him and I want to see him I have to accept the fact, as painful as it is, that it doesn't matter how much I wanted, how much I love him he doesn't want to see me or be with me.
I have to accept that love doesn't conquer all.
lamarwilson
lamarwilson
I'm sorry you are going thru this pain. It's true. You can't make someone love you, even if you love them with all your heart. It's a hard pill to swallow when you finally realize they don't want to be with you, but recognizing it is the first step in healing.
kenjb47
kenjb47
I came to the acceptance stage,there would be no us, when I found out my wife had spent the afternoon alone with the man I suspected her of cheating with. I since then have been turned upside down and crushed that someone you put everything into could discard me like trash. I pray that we all find peace and the love we deserve. I hope your suffering ends soon. Ken
strwberryginger
strwberryginger
Acceptance can be SOO hard and also soo freeing as well. Remember that the failure of someone to see your worth is on them, it does not determine your worth. You are worthy of someone who will replicate.
yougospam
yougospam
It's taken me a long, long time to reach this stage but I think I finally have. I can't tell you the sense of relief, peace and comfort that has given me to finally acknowledge, he isn't coming back, he doesn't love me enough to fight for us and he will never fix himself to be in a normal relationship. I held on to the hope that he would come back for way to long that I wasn't able to let go and heal and now I can. I was really fighting a loosing battle and only hurting myself further by hanging onto something that was no more. So, as hard as it is, letting go of toxic relationships really is the best thing for us. It's tough, it's heartbreaking, it's lonely but it takes two people to make a relationship work and when one isn't willing or does things to sabotage the relationship, we are better off w/out them. Here is a quote I found that really hit home for me:


Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward....

so, glad to say I have let go and am finally moving forward and it feels great! Been a long road.
playerapr
playerapr
yougo - that's exactly how I feel!! Couldn't say it better - holding on to hope is not realistic and it actually hurts more cause we are disappointed that things didn't work out the way we wanted.