I am so tired of the repeat lessons coming back again

So what...I haven't learnt yet?
Life was too good, so it was time to shit it all up again for me

I am trying to survive

so freaking tired

You question seemed to be a bit vague . Do you have access to a counselor to help sort things out for yourself ? Or perhaps a support group ?
Hang in there , it will get better over time.

Sorry it is vague. I am in the beginning stages of letting it all sink in. It's like I know this big deal thing happened in my life, and I know that there has to be a lesson or reflection I will learn from it but I just don't know how and when.

I should see a counselor. I have put that on my to do list.

I am pretty level-headed I think and I don't wallow in self pity but I also try to deal with problems head on. I don't think I know HOW to deal with dealing with this.

Her getting engaged behind my back and leaving for another State is pretty air tight...this happened and that's that. There is no discussion no wondering what will happen next...we are done, and I know that being done is the right thing.I know what she did is wrong and deplorable.

I just don't know how to take the steps to do what I need to do.

@Onmymind- you are taking steps right now!! They're baby steps but they are steps all the same. You admit that it's over and you know you need help. You just need some guidance and direction and like RossHomes suggested- a counselor or support group may help you. Being on here has helped me quite a bit, in-between my counseling sessions and Celebrate Recovery support group meetings.

Please, remember that if you need to chat or vent or whatever I'm here but so are many others. You are not alone. Take care of you.

I dont believe anyone knows the "right" direction to go when dealing with a situation like this whethere they are just starting out or have been in the shits for awhile now. The only thing anyone can do is to take things as they come. Crappy days will come so do some reflecting and really take a look at your feelings towards the situation. COme to terms with it. Good days will come, so revel in it and ride the high as long as it lasts.

I was much like you before my ex and I split. I was leverl headed, not much phased me in relation to things that disappointed me, I was active, etc. Then my ex punch me in the gut and cheated then left all in one week (in my mind as thats what I knew and saw). Nothing can prepare you for that or what happens to you after that. Even the most confident person can be taken to their knees and become the most lost or insecure person when someone who they allowed in to their world, turns their back on them and closes that door.

You can only do, what you can do. There is no road map, there are no instructions regardless of the amount of money you pay to a therapist or the amount of time you spend in a support group. I can tell you that you are going to at least know, exactly how you feel, right at each moment, and be able to enjoy or hate that time and learn/grow and move on from there.

God and Chi - you all don't even know how nice it was to open up this post and see the thoughtful and encouraging words of wisdom you share. I had not considered they are baby steps and baby steps are important.

God - at first I thought your answer said "Celebrity Recovery" and I when I realized my mistake I had a pretty good laugh at it.

Chi - you make a lot of sense. Wow, man ,what a kick in the gut, and balls to have so much just fall apart. I do agree to just feel what I am feeling when I am feeling it. I think I was looking at needing a road map like it would give me a jumping off point.

I really think your words and kindness shown to me is pretty great. It means a lot.