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sunsets1386
sunsets1386
I feel crazy for thinking he did or ever could change into a mature respectful kind boyfriend. I'm crazy for still wanting to be with him despite the pain it causes me and my loss of identity getting foggier. I want to believe there is better healthy men out there but I haven't dated any. Maybe I'm so messed up that I attract broken people. I don't know I just want out. I'm sad I can't seem to find the strength within me to value myself enough to know when its gone toofar. or on for far to long. I yelled at him and his roommate two nights ago bc they were being drunk and disrespectful and he stayed up talking to him until 4am, like usual. I woke up that morning to him holding me and told me he loved me as he left for work. I didn't hear from him all day and we had plans for that night before I got upset. He finally texted me at 10pm that I was dead to him, and he held me that morning bc he was sad bc that would be the last time. I wanted to kill myself, so I slept at a friends house. He was acting concerned today texting a friend of mine and me. It makes me sick to my stomach,I don't want to live this life anymore
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sunset you seems smart. I know it's hard to walk away from a boyfriend or have him walk away from you. But you got so much going for you. Your putting yourself down saying your messed up and no one would want you. That is not true. You made a wrong choice in this guy but there are some real nice guys out there. Don't give up hope. I am sorry your feeling sick over this. It's hard thing to do thru but we all make it. I just feel your on a rollercoaster ride with your boyfriend and you know in your heart it's better to get off the ride. I promise you can get better. But for now at the least you need a breakup so you and he can see if time apart might help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are not crazy for still wanting to be with him. I think that's part of loving someone. That you see their potential, you want the best for them and from them. And it's difficult to let go of that. Don't put yourself down anymore.

I think right now the fear of being alone is contributing to you not wanting to walk away. But you know what is going on is unhealthy. You can be objective enough to see that you're identity is slipping away and that he's not a good guy for you. People rarely change in relationships so this is how he is and will be. If the misery is not something you want for yourself, let him go and set yourself free to be happy. Walk away when you are ready.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are stronger than you think and you can stop this...you just have to want it bad enough. Start by staying away from him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Those in relationships should be able to compliment one another, not have one side absorbed by the other. Yes, people do change some things over time for relationships to function but not their core selves. If you are finding yourself having to change YOU then that is not a healthy relationship. Hang in there... I know it is hard as I've only been broken up from my fiance for 2 weeks but if all the people in this community are any testament at all - it is that we can still be around in the near and far off future. Good luck and be safe.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your so young and beautiful......you will get thru this.......I too sometimes I feel I am broken and only attrack broken men....still kinda hard for me to think not......but, you have so much life ahead of you......give it some time....you will look back and wonder what you were ever thinking!! I promise you will feel that soonier than you think! :)