Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
What do you do when you realize you spent the 18 years of your life with someone that you knew no matter what he loved you and adored you and never let a day go by with out telling you, how beautiful and wonderful you were but you couldn't deal with his drinking anymore and he wouldn't change and then you ended up in divorce 8 kids later and then you end up with someone completely the opposite that all they do is insult you, treat you like your totally unworthy to even be with them or utter the words I love you now 6 years 1 more child later. 24 years of my life just poof went by and kids grown 3 teenagers and toddler at home....and I live with a man that doesn't love me at all.....The decision to leave the first time was unbearable but I had to...this time around I don't know how I can find the strength. I won't tell my family and will only talk to my best friend the pain i am in because i don't want everyone to see yet another failure......
I gave my entire self to this relationship i changed who i was for him...I had never loved a man like I have loved him and he just insults and demeans me everyday....
I am 5 ft 3 and 115lbs and he calls me a fat ass, I am barely even eating, panic attacks everyday so severe i can't even drive by myself... I work 5 days a week 60 hour weeks and I walk in the door and he leaves with the teenagers, leaves me with the toddler without a word said.....I know it's over I just don't know when to finally pack my bags...
I gave my entire self to this relationship i changed who i was for him...I had never loved a man like I have loved him and he just insults and demeans me everyday....
I am 5 ft 3 and 115lbs and he calls me a fat ass, I am barely even eating, panic attacks everyday so severe i can't even drive by myself... I work 5 days a week 60 hour weeks and I walk in the door and he leaves with the teenagers, leaves me with the toddler without a word said.....I know it's over I just don't know when to finally pack my bags...
I know that it's so hard to hear the abuse. It's not you, it's HIM. He has a problem. I have learned to deflect it, and not let it in. It's hard, but just say to yourself, it's him, not ME!
I'm so sorry.
It never changes.
Maybe start looking at why it is you choose these men? We can diagnose why our partners do what they do... but in the end, we are at square one and why we began with them in the first place.