Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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diemjs 09/14/2008

I married what I thought then, was the love of my life.

Today, Im waiting for a trial date to get a divorce.

I feel really good. No saddness, no disappointment, no nothing.

Whats wrong with me? LOL

deleted_user 09/14/2008

If genuine, you just moved on. Your mind is clear and you are indeed lucky. Good for you.

deleted_user 09/14/2008

Nothings wrong with you. My anniversary (would have been the 16th) was September 11th. I was thinking the same things. I don't know what's sadder: to feel a great loss, or to just feel relief.

HUGS!!!!

deleted_user 09/14/2008

it does feel strange to feel more relief than sad, but we aren't being held back in a sinking relationship anymore.

deleted_user 09/14/2008

What would be my 10th anniversary (and technically, still will be, because we will not be divorced yet) is on Halloween. I am actually glad to make it an even 10 years - we're separated in the spiritual / psychological / emotional / sexual sense but we live in the same house and he's been quite ill and dependent (inc. financially) this year. We don't spend hardly any time together but I am in some tangential senses nursing him - food needs, med needs, etc. And we are mostly amicable, although I have a sense that the lines will get drawn again somewhat when we are back to actively negotiating the divorce.

I am glad to hit the 10 mark - there is something OCD/psychologically satisfying for me in being able to think to myself, I made it 10 years. I know that's silly, but there it is.

Glad, diemjs, that you can letthis day pass without feeling saddened by it. That sounds like progress to me.

deleted_user 09/14/2008

I'm borrowing a quote from a friend who borrowed a quote:

Growth in wisdom may be exactly measured by decrease in bitterness. -Friedrich Nietzsche

Good for you that you have growth in wisdom.

deleted_user 09/14/2008

d,
doesn't sound like anything is wrong with you.
maybe you've got it right?

Just glad that you are feeling really good.

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