Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been feeling pretty low, not that I didn't expect this but I have felt better and seem to be back sliding. I either can't or won't believe she's gone forever. Same with missing me as much as I am missing her. I look for her car (she is living 2 hours away), I look for emails from her or when the phone rings I hope it's finally her. So...I am causing myself to feel disappointed several times a day. These thoughts own me and torture me and I am doing this all by myself. WTF?
I believe when she left she had no regard for me in fact she seemed to hate me, hate her life with me and blamed me for all of her unhappiness. She even made up things I did so she could spit them out at me and she actually believed that I did what she was accusing me of. It was really bazaar, pathological. She was making hate out of nothing. and Yes it had to end, it was hell and she left. She has come by a few times to pick up some of her things and refuses to call first, so I never know and that bothers me a lot. The attorney said there is nothing I can do about it because we are joint owners, until we resolve these legal issues. Each time she has come by or emailed, she was friggen nasty and ugly.
It feels like I loved her for nothing and she hated me for nothing. We are both n/c and other then her coming by 3 wks ago and 2 wks before that we have had no contact.
I love my home and need to leave here because I am retired and will not be able to cover the mortgage and utilities. I would like to get it over with and move out sooner then later but I am responsible for my 99 yr old mother too and affordable living for us is scarce. I am in a bit of a pickle. That could be why I am "unable to believe". Who the hell would do this to anyone they loved less then 4 months ago?
I believe when she left she had no regard for me in fact she seemed to hate me, hate her life with me and blamed me for all of her unhappiness. She even made up things I did so she could spit them out at me and she actually believed that I did what she was accusing me of. It was really bazaar, pathological. She was making hate out of nothing. and Yes it had to end, it was hell and she left. She has come by a few times to pick up some of her things and refuses to call first, so I never know and that bothers me a lot. The attorney said there is nothing I can do about it because we are joint owners, until we resolve these legal issues. Each time she has come by or emailed, she was friggen nasty and ugly.
It feels like I loved her for nothing and she hated me for nothing. We are both n/c and other then her coming by 3 wks ago and 2 wks before that we have had no contact.
I love my home and need to leave here because I am retired and will not be able to cover the mortgage and utilities. I would like to get it over with and move out sooner then later but I am responsible for my 99 yr old mother too and affordable living for us is scarce. I am in a bit of a pickle. That could be why I am "unable to believe". Who the hell would do this to anyone they loved less then 4 months ago?
Be kind and love yourself every day and say it aloud as much as you need to here it. You're not alone.
Please find some way to inject some happy distraction to your day to day routine. For me, a walk in the park, short reading sessions, even watching a new sitcom, can provide a ray of sunshine on a gloomy day. Family and friends can help a lot. Post your feelings here, your good and bad days. We are here to support you as we too are going through the emotions you are feeling. God bless.