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10 yrs down the drain

ReneeLyons75
ReneeLyons75

So my girlfriend and I had been together one month shy of 10 years. And I was kind of shocked that she broke up with me. We had been having some difficulties the last year due to my depression and her anxiety but I didn't think that changed how we felt for each other. After I moved out I discovered she had been in touch with a woman that she had emotionally cheated with about 5 months prior to this. So for the most part of this last 3 months she has been stringing me along. Making me believe that there's some chance we could possibly get back together. And now I found out that she started seeing another lady from work. Of course she denies that too. I have never felt so broken and hurt in my whole life. At one point this was so crippling I did nothing but cry for an hour in my psychiatrist office. They say it gets better and you can move on, but can someone tell me when it gets better? I don't know how much more I can take of this emotionally or mentally, because it's making me sick physically. I don't know how to fall out of love with someone.

sjs777
sjs777
you're not alone

by all means read my journals or reach out if you need a friend

stay strong
wakan49
wakan49
It will get better but yes it takes time. How much depends on us as individuals. The best thing you can do for yourself is go no contact with her and don't look at any of her face book or other media. It sucks but you can do it.
ReneeLyons75
ReneeLyons75
No contact is so hard for me, I reached out again last night and again today. I've read so many books about NCR but I'm so week. I have spoken to her every single day for the last 10 years. Stopping cold turkey is excruciating for me. The hardest part is she is moving on, going out with friends some of which I think she's starting to become romantically involved with. And I'm over here suffering. I don't know why my heart cannot let her go even though my brain is screaming to stop stop stop.
stillstanding
stillstanding
No contact is hard, especially with the crazy thoughts that run through your head and just getting out of your comfort zone and dealing with this big change in your life. The feeling you have about yourself and how you really are is deep though and you will get there sweetie! I read somewhere that our heart overwhelms our brain and that's why we have a hard time letting go. Maybe that was incorrectly repeated but that's what I took away from that article.

HUGS, HUGS, HUGS
refurb
refurb
it takes, well it helped me to not care about the "timeline", as not being on the recovery schedule was one more thing to feel bad about, just let yourself feel bad

consider no contact, you won't get closure from someone that used and manipulated you
Jahri
Jahri
"They say it gets better and you can move on, but can someone tell me when it gets better? I don't know how much more I can take of this emotionally or mentally, because it's making me sick physically. I don't know how to fall out of love with someone"

Been there and done that....... And it does actually get better as time moves on, but your timeline for healing when begin when you accept the fact/reality that your total worth and existence are not dependent on someone else. You must make a decision to be at peace with yourself, and accept that closure (even when forced) is not the end of your life. In my case, it was the beginning of living.

I feel your pain (been there), surround yourself with true friends and family who will nurture your wounds, while cultivating your healing with their truth as you honestly share yours.
Jahri
Jahri
As painful as it may seem, it is still a truth........ True does not kidnap or hold hostage. True love releases; giving freedom, and allowing energy to flow for creation.
Jahri
Jahri
Once last note:
Don't suppress your raw emotions..... journal your feelings, you will embrace your healing by accepting the reality THAT IS....... Each second, minute, hour, day will be proving ground for your growth and healing.