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10 year marriage up in smoke...

Ctrevarrow
Ctrevarrow

My wife of ten years and I just separated, i found out she has been cheating on me and sending some younger kid in Vermont money.  I was devestated, i trusted her did everything i could make her happy forgoing and ignoring my own happiness basically being a doormat which i know now is dumb. She hid everything from me i just discovered the relationship by accident she left open there chat window and the boy contacted to tell my wife he loves her to. I lost my mind i couldnt understand or fathom this was happening to me not only did she cheat on me, but she sent him money and used the money i made to support our house. But then kicks me out and now her father feeling sorry for her is taking her on a all expenses paid trip to Cabo with his step kids. I just dont like or understand what i want is to get my life on track i understand even if i got all the answers i hope for wouldn't change anything i would still be divorced living in my parents extra room.  I just need to know how do you carry on?  

bluemoon29
bluemoon29
turn your attention to any other thing...maybe your parents need some help with something?
mirandac
mirandac
I hope you are in therapy to help you walk thru this muck
Also divorce care.org is a great group for helping with the
Grieving. Grieving helps with you processing your feelings
and Emotions. It takes time to go thru so be patient and kind
To yourself, no beating yourself up.

If you are getting Divorced not much real healing happens until
Its over because You are in an emotional, financial and legal
war zone with your spouse. Its an intense time, its all about
The financials at the end.

Sorry for all your Hurt and pain. HUGS
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
I remember inadvertently reading the emails between my ex wife and her cheater partner...it's something I wish I would've never seen, still bugs me over 2 years later. The level of betrayal...it sure made me realize we could NEVER reconcile. It would never be the same. So in that regards I did get some "closure" if that's even possible lol. But yeah I know the hurt you're feeling. Sucks big time.
MTGrl
MTGrl
I'm sorry you and everyone else is hurting as a result of a cheating partner/spouse. I've been down that road in several relationships and it sucks. Betrayal and rejection are so painful...however the pain does ease with time. That's what I keep telling myself.
samantha717
samantha717
Get yourself into therapy. That's what I did and it's been so good for me. I went to Psychology Today's website, plunked in my zip code and got a list of therapists in my area including their profiles. I choose two I liked best, called them and interviewed them over the phone and then went with the one I felt most comfortable with.

Secondly, find yourself a good attorney. Go to AVVO and again, plunk in your zip code. You'll get a list of attorneys in your area. Read their reviews. Call a few and get a consultation. Most consultations are free, but some aren't so ask upfront. You need to find out what your rights are.

For me, these two things gave me a feeling of taking back control of myself and the situation. You will still have bad days, but in time, they will lessen.