so true. and amazing. as if the thin pillow case that holds it all in, has imperceptible openings in it and the little feathers get out and waft around a bit.

Like this, and so true. Good to see a bit of laughter can be shared between us.

I agree, I have seen that in Larry that he laughs when he lies. thanks

I tried to lie to my husand ONCE.
He said, "Are you lying to me?"
I answered, "Yep."
He just winked at me and said, "Don't do it again."
I am a lousy liar, so you are right...
It's just to much to remember.
Jenn

That's so true. I have found other things about life and especially my ability to empathize that have some positive aspects. That means you feel other peoples pain, but it also enhances how you feel other peoples joy.

hmyers I agree with you. I am experiencing feelings that I never had before, must be the change in the brains chemistry.

Sorry to disagree, but I can remember enough to choose to lie.
Such as telling someone I will not go out to a social event on Sat.
And then going. Or saying I'll send someone a check for a certain amount, then sending less.

Instead I choose not to give a definite yes or no.

I choose not to lie, though.

I would not break into laughter, though. Not unless a fellow TBIer or myself experienced healing. It would be laughter of joy.

The universal good of TBIers, I believe, is that we can encourage others who do not have it as hard as we do to not give up.

And to the newcomers to TBI, we can give them support & share our wisdom.

No hard feelings. Good topic. Just my opinion. Take care all.

Interesting topic!

I find it harder to lie than before (not that I made practice of it). Best I can do...no answer! I also find some folks just can't take the truth straight up. I've had folks at work tell me I'm mean. I've sat down with a few asked them to explain a particular instance where I was mean.

Come to find out....I'm not so mean after all. I just don't waste the energy I have to "sugar coat" the truth. I used there example and then "sugar coated" for them...then asked what was the real difference in what I said? They did agree...the intent was the same it was just....I had handled them all with sugar coating for so long they came to expect it.

The truth has always been very important in my life before & after TBI. It's always been easier to keep track of...and keeps you out of trouble most of the time.

08SPORTY I am like you, I've always tried to be truthful in my life. The example of sugar coating the truth hits home with me. I also know that I exaggerate a point to make the point much like my original post.

It's a very interesting topic - I experienced my TBI my senior year of high school and have lived with it for the past 9 years - hard to remember life without it or if it was easier to lie before!

I totally agree with Sporty. Most can't handle the TRUTH. I feel like the truth is more obvious to me know since my TBI. I can't see anything else but the truth. I guess that filter in my brain is missing now, so I pretty much just say what the truth is. I don't sugar coat to much either. But, I find that most can't handle it. It's too direct for most.
I also have difficulty with lying. Honesty has always been very important to me, even before my TBI. But, it is true, TBI'ers are the most honest people. I just can't tell a lie!
I am like Sporty on this one as well. I find it best just to keep my mouth shut. I guess over the years I have been able to learn that it is just best for me to remain silent. I do that laughing thing if I do lie.
Interesting topic! Thanks for sharing!!

This is so true and a great post. Doves, I can relate to everything your saying here, I've joked about my filter being gone. Saying they must have removed it while they were inside my brain doing surgery. People tell me im a completely different person now, I say whatever comes to mind, good or bad. And have a 'it is what it is' attitude. I can barely keep up with the truth most days, cant imagine trying to navigate my way through a lie, lol.

My filter is gone too! I thought I was unique. Good to hear others with TBI have the same thing.

I think so. Plus, I think it makes us more sensitive.

My TBI automatically made me stop drinking and smoking. That's another thing :)