Brain Injury Support Group
Traumatic brain injury occurs when a sudden trauma causes brain damage. TBI can result from a closed head injury or a penetrating head injury. Symptoms of a TBI can be mild, moderate, or severe, depending on the extent of the damage to the brain. Outcome can be anything from complete recovery to permanent disability or death. A coma can also affect a child's brain.
Why is it that when I just try to have a simple conversation with a family member with asking what a phone number is that is in my cell phone it turns into a major ordeal.
For example tonight I go and ask my grandmother what this number is in my cell, a number that I didn't recognize, it just said "uncle" and I gave her the number I didn't know which one since I have 5 uncles but all of a sudden she precedes to start throwing out all these numbers going well if its this number or that number, etc and I'm like whoa wait, wait, I can't, handle all the numbers..what's just this number?, one sec cause it's like major system overload. All I wanted is to say yes it's uncle John's not a breakdown of the whole freaking family's phone book.
Mind you I just came from speech therapy as well and my brain is already exhausted and she just persists on throwing numbers at me still after the fact too. Why can't they just stop when I ask them to stop and listen to exactly what I'm asking cause I can handle what they are now doing to me, it's too much. Does this happen to anyone else? I had to tell her three times to stop and now I'm in tears cause then by the end of it I was like gram I can't do this and walked away and she's "like fine if you don't want my help you shouldn't have asked in the first place"..like seriously? I didn't think I was being rude, I thought my question was pretty basic and simple. I give up...
For example tonight I go and ask my grandmother what this number is in my cell, a number that I didn't recognize, it just said "uncle" and I gave her the number I didn't know which one since I have 5 uncles but all of a sudden she precedes to start throwing out all these numbers going well if its this number or that number, etc and I'm like whoa wait, wait, I can't, handle all the numbers..what's just this number?, one sec cause it's like major system overload. All I wanted is to say yes it's uncle John's not a breakdown of the whole freaking family's phone book.
Mind you I just came from speech therapy as well and my brain is already exhausted and she just persists on throwing numbers at me still after the fact too. Why can't they just stop when I ask them to stop and listen to exactly what I'm asking cause I can handle what they are now doing to me, it's too much. Does this happen to anyone else? I had to tell her three times to stop and now I'm in tears cause then by the end of it I was like gram I can't do this and walked away and she's "like fine if you don't want my help you shouldn't have asked in the first place"..like seriously? I didn't think I was being rude, I thought my question was pretty basic and simple. I give up...
i have this kind of stuff happen all the time, but I often don't get pissed at the person because I know I can't handle the stress because i'm still healing.
people give me a hard time constantly. my communication skills are a mess in person.
hang in there meep. things'll get better
be especially kind to yourself this evening...maybe a hot bubble bath with a candle. chocolate...anything that makes you feel as special as you alreadt are.
blessings,
becky
This is an area I have actually gotten very good at, if I may say so. I got tired of missing things and being worked up into irritation or frustration or, like you, even tears.
I have learned to gently stop them. And completely break their train of thought. By speaking their name slowly, and reaching out and grabbing their hands. Its a pretty impressive gesture, the touching of someone else's hands. Its an attention getting technique. And be silent and stare at them and get full contact. Sometimes I have to say: "Mom. Mom. Mom" three times before she stops. Then I tell her how much I appreciate the help, how important hearing it is, but I need to process it a bit slower. And ask if she can go over it again, slower, or usually and more efficiently, I ask smaller more succinct questions.
By try touching, try the calm name saying. You might find it helps them to reach your level, find your pace, instead of you continuing to get lost in theirs.
My other brain Docs all know to do this.
One day she was rambling on and I just sat there quiet. Finally when she finished she asked me some question and I just said, "I can't keep up with you."