yes in the beginning...I certainly did. I blamed anyone...everyone. I think what I finally decided was I was so angry at what had happened, what I had lost. I just didn't know how to deal with all the anger I felt.

I had to break it down into parts. Parts of my anger were directed...here...some there....and some over here. The biggest part was...I'm the one who's messed up so bad and everyone else gets off free of charge.

Once I was able to break it into parts I evaluated one piece at a time. Found a way to deal with it, accept it as a real emotion not just rage (and that's what I felt). The healing began.

It took a long time...it did not happen over night. I've gone through the crying for no reason too....it's the part of our brains that were injured. When I first came home...I couldn't cry. The only emotion was anger that showed or that I felt.

This injury is not rational by any means. I've done and said things I'd have tripped over before my accident. You are not alone!

Time will heal a great deal of it. Until then...don't push yourself so hard.

anger and tbis seem to go hand in hand. I don't know why but I was never at the driver who caused my accident. i just seemed to accept I was unlucky and in the wrong place at the wrong time but dealing with the injury and situation I found myself in was another story. I got angry and lost my temper with everyone and there would be no holds barred.
I'm not so bad now. Yeah I can snap at times and be a bit quick to answer back but I'm definitely not as bad as I was in the first year or two. As is said in your other answer time is a great healer.
You learn to take five and that five is often long enough for you to realise its not that big a deal. It is allot to deal with and no wonder you are mad and losing your temper.
I still get annoyed at times but am much better at holing it in now. It has taken a while though. don't expect to just turn it off one day it does take some work but you can do it and you'll get there too

Oh, honey, yes!

I didn't feel any anger until about the 1 year mark. I don't think I was physically capable of feeling anger until that point, because anger takes energy.

And, then...wow...bouts of anger then...and recently very severe anger.

Let's see:

-anger at the drunk driver
-anger at the person who I was talking to who kept me late so I was on the road at that particular time
-anger at the DAs office for giving the drunk driver a slap on the wrist
-anger at people for not helping me

Etc.

What you are feeling is VERY, VERY normal.

The people that caused my tbi caused it 10 years ago. Just last week I was in a weird state of mind. I broke down crying, I was angry. I wanted to find them and make them pay. I called the police to see what they had done and found out they had never followed up. That set me into more of a rage. My state of mind was not good. I knew revenge was not good. I could end up dead this time. THis was 10 years ago and I am still having these issues. THis was when I decided I needed counceling. I have held all these feelings in for 10 years. I never knew tbi had anger along with the other symptoms. Nobody ever told me anything. I am just now finding this stuff out. Better late than never, but I sure wish I would have know years ago that all these emotions came along with tbi and that I was not losing it all these years like I thought I was. Hang in there and get counseling if you have not already. I searched and came across some church and it is regular 90 dollars a session, but I only have to pay 20 due to my income.

Another thing, alcohol fed my anger. I only have a few beers from time to time now. I no longer get drunk. I have no idea why I dont have the feeling to want to get drunk, but I dont. The only time I felt normal was when I was intoxicated. Thats when I felt like the old me. THats when I did not feel the symptoms and all was ok, but thats also when my anger would really show at times. Not all the time, but when it did come out, it came out bad.

Yes, It is almost like I never had feelings before my TBI.

I knew anger, very well. But since my TBI, all of my emotions are amplified.

I am a man, yet I cry more than men should. I am becomming okay with it. This is a part of our new lives......

I find ways to go with my feelings. Our mind is a wonderful gift. We are Very powerful. I try to fight my ANT'S (Automatic Negative Thoughts) Don't let these thoughts ruin your life. "Talk back to them, in your mind..." If your "ANT" says you're angry, ask why? Think it through, and tell yourself the opposite. It helps, maybe you will find yourself mistaken and end up happy.

Find ways to be happy. You said it was not her fault? So try not to blame her.... She is a friend. Friends are hard to find, believe me, I don't have many. AND I know this IS my fault. I can be too sensitive, so i'm a downer. I make an issue out of little things, sometimes. It is really hard to change ourself, but we have to.

Every day is a trial and error day for me, and i've made too many errors.

I wish you the best of luck. I know you will make it.