Borderline Personality Disorder Community Group
For people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, or family dealing with someone who has been diagnosed. BPD is an extremely difficult mental illness to deal with and I am hoping to be able to share experiences, advice and support to help people living with it.
My husband has BPD and I was wondering if anyone in this group is a family member of someone diagnosed with BPD? I would really like some support for myself in how to deal and work with my husband when he has "Episodes" and the aftermath of the damage that it creates in my family. Any help or advice would be great as I don't have any support and feel very alone.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE here. I am with you. I too am faced with serious issues and behavioral problems with my daughter, she is a step daughter, but I consider her my very own gift from God (albeit one of the most arduous roads I have ever embarked on) - I wouldn't change a thing. However, I will say - she is not living with us right now, and seeing her behave as an adult is exhausting - We - well I, asked her to leave my house. And I say my house because we are literally in my house - I inherited it from my now deceased mom, and my husband and I are dealing with issues surrounding that death and the new responsibility of caring for my developmentally disabled older brother, whom was born with cerebral palsy and epilepsy. He is a handful, but let me tell you, what has happened in the last four months makes my brother's birth problem seem easy...because, like my brother, my daughter was born with something I am having a hard time understanding and communicating with her on a level she can understand. AND I HOPE I LEARN HOW TO communicate with her in LOVE and understanding, rather than 'react' to her taunts, and her simmering, seething anger which propels her and extracts her at the same time. Let me know how I can help you, if it is just by listening, and reading your posts, then we are there for each other - I am reading a book Actually two books, one is titled Malignant Self-love by Sam Vaknin (Narcissists, Psychopaths, and abusive relationships...it is very very clinical, but I find I am wading through it and my entire book is filled with notations, and dates when I dipped in and dipped out. I am finding the more I read, the more difficulty I have in believing my fantasy, that somehow I 'saved' my daughter from the torments of her birth mom...or her tumultuous upbringing...And I am also finding out I am not FAILING her....by knowing the truth...because for all intensive purposes, I have known all along she was sick, I was just blind to my own process of understanding. And I have learned - by experience-denial is an important part of our defense mechanisms in our brains. Without denial we could and would go mad. So here's to a health dose of denial. May you always know you are not alone. Here is a site I am pursuing: narcissisticabuse-owner@yahoo.groups. It is part of Sam Vaknin's vast organizations...he is the author of the book above. I am also just starting the book "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me...Understanding the Borderline Personality(The National Best Selling Classic - completely revised and updated. It is by Jerold J Kreisman, MD and Hal Straus. Let me know if this is any help. (OMG I am just seeing how long ago you posted this - - I feel terrible that your post has sat here lone and unanswered....) I hope we find each other. With love from a mom who is suffering the loss of a dream...of a delusional dream.