I wish he would be more validating towards you. Some people are just so angry and cant handle what they cant control so they try to compensate by yelling or shaming or putting people down. Try to remember his reaction is all about him processing this and not about you even if he tries to make it about you.

I agree with TwilightStar.

Find another partner. How does he know more than you what's going on? A control freak might want to believe that. Sorry can't be more help.

I dont have BPD but I do have panic disorder and depression. Recently my meds needed tweaking since my panic was coming back and I looked to my bf for support and he basically did the same thing. So j threw his shit out of the apt lol and said if u can't support me or read about my illness u can go. He changed his tune immediately. It's tough not having someone u can trust and talk to when things get bad. U always have support here.

I just wanted to say thanks for the great feedback and support. I now realize it is about him and that the more I let him know I won't tolerate his horrible treatment towards me, he treats me much better. He even has a bit of respect for me and buys me little things here and there. I haven't yet asked for him to support me in understanding my borderline issues, but maybe I will someday. Any advice regarding this? By the way, I am working my butt off trying to overcome the abusive parenting which I see caused my bpd on my own without counseling and have made a LOT of progress.

Sorry. Yea I haven't had any support really at all from any family all my life. I was always just a bad person. I"m surprised he would react that way being a psychiatrist..jeez. That's what a lot of us get is oh your too sensitive and blah blah. Invalidation. Biggest culprit for this disorder. hugs

Hi Christmas, I can relate to you. Don't know if this helps or hurts, but my bf reacted the same way. I have always been alone. The day I admitted myself to a psychiatric clinic to finally get help I took an Uber there and back. My bf visited once. No one else, except for my psychologist visited me. We are married now. It gets easier. Sometimes people react with anger when they are fearful or hurting. I try to remember this when my hubby gets trigger angry and that helps me have compassion for him and in turn when I have shown compassion to his anger he has always returned it and this has allowed both of us to sort thru a lot of our issues together. I don't know your bf, but you do so ultimately you will know if this is helpful in your situation. Sending lots of hugs.