Hi lilduckie,

No need for your to be sorry, but I am sorry to hear about your troubles. Without knowing more about your situation, I don't know what to say. Are you sure she was upset about your disabilities, or could it have been an easy target for her? Good luck when you talk to her later. I hope it all works out for you.

Best wishes,
Jeff

Hey Jeff,
Well we talked about it and she said she was sorry and didnt mean it. She has been stressed with work. But she said in her mind that it didnt sounds mean or hurtful. She also had said that she was in shock because I have an aeye appoint this week with my retina doc and my vision is getting worse so she was just having a hard time with it. Also I have been wearing sunglasses more due to having more light senstivity. Anyway I am rambling. But I thank you for your support.

PS your cat is very cute. smiles. Enjoy the day

Well, it sounds like the situation has settled down a little bit. What does your girlfriend do? Is she stressed about the work itself, or is there some kind of drama going on in the office? Is there any way you can help her take her mind off of it? I know that when I have stress at work, I prefer to try to leave it there at the end of the day.

Anyway, anytime you feel the need to vent, feel free.

Later,
Jeff

btw, the cat's name is Simon.

Sound like what I went through alomst a year ago; you can read my story in my profile. You and your girlfriend really need to talk about your commitment to each other. In the end, you only want to be with someone who really trully loves you and will be committed to you. Let her actions speak and not necessarily her words. Give her time too and be compassionate with her because it is just as much her disability as it is yours if she chooses to be with you. Use this time to get closer. Good luck man. I am still having a hard time with all of it but my ex has already been engaged to someone else, less then 8 months since she left me. I question life and God everyday. I know I am a good man but why do these things happen? I really hope your story turns out better then mines.

Things are going ok here. My girl friend is trying. But yes it does take time for everyone to get use to things and I just hope we dont have that arugment again. It was pretty hurtful. I never really thought of it as her disability too. In a way it is due to her having to drive everywhere and she is learning to live with someone with disabilities. I keep trying to be calm and understanding of things. Like when she leaves the chair out and I trip over it or run into it. But it is a pretty common thing so it does get tiring. I will keep you guys updates. Thanks for your support.

Hello Lilduckie

This is robbyg's wife. My husband became blind from a MRSA infection he contracted about a year and a half ago. It has been a really difficult time for my husband. We have been married for 26 years and it is the most devastating thing to see - - I am so so sad for him. He still has not been able to deal with this terrible cross. I do work full-time but I am with him constantly when I am not working. I hate it when people say they feel sorry for me. I am not the one who is blind. I willfully and lovingly take care of my husband. He is my soulmate and I cannot imagine living a day without him. He has and continues to be always there for me. We have two grown children who are trying to cope with their father's ailment. But we are a strong family and will never, ever leave my husband alone. I pray everyday that my husband will be given just five minutes of sight so that he can see our faces. Hang in there. You are still needed, as you, I am sure continue to provide invaluable insight to those around you.

Take care of you,

Robbyg

I'd say go to a therapist. I have a therapist who is visually impaired and he understands things I go through. That way maybe there won't be as many fights. You get the objectivity of a therapist and your loved one gets a break.

Many times a persons fear is displayed in anger and denial especilay when they love you or care about you. An example would be, My husband dealing with the fact that our son was born with birth defects and dissibilites . He loved that baby boy but he had such a hard time dealing with his sons condition. He very often had burst of anger when it sould have been sadness and tears. He felt helpless because no matter how big and strong daddy was, Daddy could not fix the problems the baby had.Ther was nothing he could do to make the baby not hurt or not have to go through all that he would have to go through in his life. It hurt him deeply. He was depressed. He got better over the years. But he still could not bear to see our son struggle and hurt and not have what daddy thought was a normal life. People who love us have feeling for us and all our hurts and prroblems . The people in our lives do not want us to have to go through any hard times or have any more problems. So sometimes people cry and others get angry, and some do not want to talk about it becasue it upsets them. I am not sure what you can do to make if different. But do not be afraid to talk about even if it is upsetting to others in your life. Bad news is hard for anyone to take and come to grips with. It either breakes us or makes us stronger. If you are strong, it is more likley that others in you life will become strongerand better to j=handel your difficult situation. Be positive so that other will see it and they will be positive. I have lived with several handicapped people ( all different problems )
I learn so much from them and I grew stronger . I became more positive. and became an incourager rather than a doubter of their abilites. Attitude is every thing. Having a good attitued will make the difference between making it or not. Live life to the fullest do not short change yourself or anyone else because of a dissibility. Go for the gold. Reach for the stars. Make the best out of every situation. Hang in there. Believe you can do it. Where there is will there is a way. The more candels you light the brighter the light becomes . With your good attitued being one candel and if you light another and so on and so on almost any problem can be handled in some way. Life can be good no mater what your dissibility is .It depends on your attitude and the attitude of those around you.