Lesbians and bi women do have a specific look. Human. Really.

Ok, I'll agree that many of us match a specific look, but there's just as many who don't. What you're describing is "femme." I'm pretty femme, too. But I date femme, butch, and in between.

My recommendation is not to worry how you look. Be comfortable and confident in who you are. Get active in your local LGBTQ community, check out the local center. Start building LGBTQ social circles and you won't have to worry about not being pegged as lesbian. Good luck!

I agree, the old saying. "You can't judge a book by its cover" I feel fits here.
Just as everyone in life, we don't know everything a person just from what they look like, other than human, walking upright, mammal...

My biggest advice I feel I can add to the last post, look up for gay friendly places (my favorite was a coffee house) or other businesses. Also look up LGBTQ for your area they can help you in meeting others. not in the dating scene, but more for friends.
I hope this helps a little.

Be who you are, dont try to be a certain look. Agreed with going to LGBTQ friendly places, and while an online dating site is off putting, there are plenty of online non-dating sites to just meet people in our community. Be friends with others first, and perhaps you will meet 'the one'.

Go where you are most bound to meet bisexual women. That could be at a GLB or GLBT get together or a gay women's get together. Not all of them fit the stereotype. I met one who was very feminine when we were together and at a group meeting I attended. I too am bisexual, and I forget how it came to pass, but i mentioned that I was bisexual for some reason. Nobody got worked up over it. So that enabled her to come out about being bisexual also. She was really a very nice person. Just because she was. Nothing to do with her sexual orientation or mine. So just live your life more and maybe more among places doing what they do without giving up your femininity. But don't pull away from the hetro scene completely. They are often found there also. :)

not sure where you live but in the bay area we have a TON of meet up groups Not for hook ups.. but doing things with folks like you that you enjoy doing. they have LGBT meet ups, Femme meet ups, women who like butch and trans, all kinds.. meet up for yoga, or food or movie nite.
i never was really attracted to "lesbian" women, more attracted to "straight" or "straight looking" "femme" as someone said. not sure if that is because i am trans or was always like a tomboy- but never attacted to my "own type" so to speak- it is complicated in a way attraction that is.
i wish we could all just be out and open and talk about being our self and be able to be honest without fear of discrimination-
i have heard a few "femme" women talk about how "invisible "they feel because people read them as "straight " women. i hope you find some fun folks to get to know!