Me too. I told my wife. To my surprise she said you only get 1 life. If you need to explore that then go do it. I was shocked. The one thing she never spoke of was what would happen next. I’ve never taken her up on it. For that exact fear. Besides some random interaction with men on the internet I’ve never done anything in real life. I know I’m living some kind of lie. But nothing is more powerful than the guilt I imagine if I were to end up tearing my family apart. I’m starting to think I actually will die with this unresolved. My second worst nightmare. Best I can do is relate and send you a hug.

Hi everyone, I am the spouse of a man who came out to me as bisexual. It's been a long hard Road... And I still have my doubts that he will be okay with never exploring with other men... I sometimes get this choking fear that one day he will choose something else over me. We don't have any kids to be harmed if we broke it off.... However we are like best friends and have been dating since we were 21... We got married in 2012 and he came out to me in 2017. Most of the people in our lives are now aware of this except for my mother and father and siblings... I don't want him to think I'm ashamed of him coming out but I really wanted to figure out what's happening between ourselves before involving family opinions. I really don't think that's what I need right now. We are a lot closer now that he's come out to me... We've always been very good at communicating but now that he's come out we've grown in ways we never had in the last 11 years. Since you two are on the same page as he is right now... Wondering if I can get some advice? Is it possible that because this is all new to him.....being out... is it possible that all these fresh new urges to explore with another man will eventually fade. I don't expect him to go straight again of course but instead to desire me again once the novelty has worn off. Of course he will still find men attractive... Forever and him and I do carry on about cute guys... That's not the issue. The issue is that he has told me he wants to explore with other men. I don't know if it's even sane to hope that that desire fades...

have you considered hooking up with a female friend with benefits? this way you can save your marriage and keeping a good relationship with your child. good news is that it easy to disguise a female on female relationship as boyfriends/husband are ware of guys not girls close to their woman. husband will just assume your girlfriend is safe as your buddy since you have not exposed your bisexuality to him. you just have to avoid public open affection and keeping loveable activities behind closed doors. not a difficult task.

You could try bunnyhabit's idea, it would likely work, or you could have a serious discussion with him and come out to him- hoping he'll be supportive. Such a shame you didn't get this all out and taken care of before you married, since you clearly knew you were bi then! I made sure to come out to my eventual husband when we started dating and his support and encouragement to embrace and explore my sexuality right from the start is a key reason we married. So the question now is, take the risk and come out, or just have a FWB or two on the side you pass off as 'just friends' (which is likely pretty low risk, but are you content with doing something like that?).