I have had the same proble, but for a longer time. I have become completely removed from him. I feel so lonely. Yet I need so much more.

Anne

im not sure i can help but i kinda understand. im 30 and was always straight then last year suddenly ended up dating a lesbian. i also used to fantisize about woman but never told anyone as i thought i was odd. the sex with her is out of this world so so ,much better than with a man. but dating a woman is very different to dating a man. i would rather date a man but have sex with a woman haha.

You are not alone! I am married but my husband knows I am bi, and we've even dabbled together with other women. my problem is I want a woman all the time not romantically but sexually and without my hubby involved, which i know he wouldn't be ok with, its very frustrating cause I crave it, I can't explain it but it turns me on sexually so much.

It's obviously tough, since it seems like you and your husband have been through a great deal together and you have children. At the same time, what jumps out at me most when I read your post is not the, rather common, feeling of attraction you have for women, but how unhappy you seem to be in your marriage. You and your husband got together very young, and you certainly would not be the first couple who married young only to find that one or both of you has changed dramatically. It is completely normal for people's personalities to develop into their mid-twenties. A lot of folks don't realize this, but it is pretty common for people to come into a deeper or even new understanding of their sexual orientation into their twenties as well. So, you are not weird. If you weren't married with kids, you wouldn't even have a problem. You realized you are bisexual in your twenties; it happens all the time. What seems at issue is what to do with your marriage. I obviously don't know you personally, but the way you describe your marriage makes it seem like you have "rough patches" pretty frequently. It might be worth considering the possibility that the people you and your husband have become now, as opposed to when you met, don't really belong together. I had this happen in a relationship. I fell madly and deeply in love with someone as a teenager and our love flourished for some years. Yet, we both grew up to be people who probably would not date or even be interested in each other. It was hard to accept. I thought I could never stop being in love with him. In my case, we are still friends, and will probably always care for each other as people, but we are free to try and find that spark of love again that has brought so much joy into our lives with someone else.

Be well :)

When my wife and I divorced I realized a bit late that she was bi at first and turned lesbian. We were only married for 5 years and together for 7.

Well, she and I are good friends now despite the fact that she is legally married to a lesbian.

I would suggest that you find your happiness somehow although having the children is a big responsibility and burden. I suggest marital counseling. If that is too expensive you may talk with your pastor if you go to church.

Other than that, I urge you to get help from people on this site. Good luck in your finding a reason to be happy.