i have another story about "rash decisions" (although i won't base it on his sexual orientation)... when i got out of the army, my best friend of 12 years (who is gay) told me to move in with him while i got on my feet, because my family turned their backs on me. well, i moved 6 hours away, to a brand new city, to live with him. i got enrolled in college and started attending class. one day about 3 weeks after i moved in, it was pouring rain, and i made a sandwich using my own bread, my own meat, but i was out of cheese. i used some of his, told him i'd pick up some more on my way back from class... got a text in class saying "don't bother coming back". he threw away 12 years of friendship and put his friend out on the streets, over cheese. so i know how that pain feels

GEEZ! I'm sorry you had to go through that. I've been through a similar situation when I was younger and didn't have a home for a little while. But to have gone out of your way so far only to be kicked about something dumb. It seems he was looking for a reason. I'm at point in my life where I don't even want friends, all they do is hurt you.

I maybe shouldn't have the generalization with "Lesbians"; that was a little disrespectful of me, I apologize.

i think amending the title to "people are moving too fast" would work just as well. i've seen a lot of straight friends make fast mistakes like that too. had another friend, dated a girl for 2 months, proposed, and married her within 4 months from that, and couldn't understand why they were getting divorced 6 months into their marriage. people want everything now (not all people, but it is a growing tendency) and don't care about the consequences

That's true. I'm in the military, so I know. Most soldiers get married at 18 and divorce by 18 1/2. I can't even tell you how many friends I know that got married during lunch break...

would you mind too much if i sent a friend request? i'm a veteran myself

I just found out (from facebook, of course) that my best friend, my room mate AND my EX GIRLFRIEND are all hanging out having drinks together. Wtf is going on in the world?

i know it might suck, but as far as they are concerned, it might help if you deleted them as friends. it'll be difficult, but in the end, it will end up hurting less hun

Wow that sucks!! And I hear your pain in this one and I agree with sweetmisery--people in general move too fast. And none of them ever find a sustainable relationship. but they continue to jump on each other's crotches and getting married at whim etc etc and then breaking up and complaining.
No one listens that a relationship is HARD WORK and like a great TEMPLE and without lots of TIME it just doesn't happen.
Rome wasn't built in a day...nothing great was. You build a true love slowly, bit by bit, carefully, and with love and planning. You dont throw it together in a week and then wonder why it collapses on you.

But waht do I know? I've only been married happily for 8 yrs ;)

And my friends still don't listen to me either so ...I know how it feels HUGS I relate to your comment that youre starting not to want them at all. me too.

It may be easier to generalize about lesbians. I've noticed that they tend to move faster than straight people, although I've seen gay men move very quickly too. I think it's just elation that you've found someone who's also gay, bi, etc. and that you're attracted to one another.

I dated a woman briefly over the summer and on the first date she asked me if I'd ever move near to where she lives (across a border) and I said no; I'd lived there before and didn't like the medical system, education system, etc. compared to where I am now. (I have a child.)

In my town there are some women who are known "U-haulers". Some are friends of mine. On the other hand, there are women who - if after going on a date or two figure things won't work - drop you cold. That I don't understand. Why can't people take their time and figure out whether they click, would make good friends, or are completely *in*compatible?

Dating today is done with a total shopping mentality and I find it extremely sad.

yea, i had that problem with friends. this wasnt about sexuality but i had this friend who got a bf, he was more important than us. i had to pick up the pieces later and i hated him cuz he looked racist and a big asshole to boot. she confesses he was keeping her away from her non white friends plus didnt want her around white ppl either! i said why did u bother to date him? her dumb answer was he was hot!

i agree with reply #9. i met girls online which i didnt meet wanted to date as soon as they met me which i thought was too fast. one girl said i was a liar that i was lying about my sexuality etc i said how am i lying cuz i wont date u the minute i see u? i didnt get it quite frankly i dont get why im being called a liar a lot. i can back up my shit no problem the problem is most ppl cant.

i love meeting ppl but i cant seem to keep friends. i keep making friends who just abuse/mistreatment which i had mistreatment from family and old friends my entire life, it seems to be following still. ive had friends who treated me to be a friend when they felt like it do it back to them and they wanna break up the friendship. it was sad too how they didnt think they were in the wrong.

i heard lesbians move too fast into relationships.