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Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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Just can't get over him

new2accwpting
new2accwpting

i have been friends with this guy a few years and a couple months ago we slept together and he said it was the best connection he had ever experienced. This went on for about a month until we both returned home from working out of town he then spent a weekend with his girlfriend and then stopped texting me ignored me for a week and I asked him if he was having second thoughts about being with me a man he said he was and felt bad for his gf. A week later after him not texting me I asked if it was going anywhere or just want to be friends. He said just friends and didn't feel good about what he did to her. I was hurt and that has been 3 months now I have still been texting him he replies but with short answers and doesn't no longer joke around. Before we slept together we joked around in texts and even used pet like names peachs cupcake precious things like that. Now nothing but short answers he claims he wants to hangout but will never make plans. Is he afraid to come out or admit to himself he is bi or gay. I feel like I have fallen in love with him and can't stop thinking of him especially what he is doing. I have anxiety over this. If he looks at one of my Snapchats I feel good and like a high. I need help I think he wants to be with me but is afraid of what goes with being with another man. I want him so bad and not just the sex but just being with him. I don't know what to do with myself

tomboy_central
tomboy_central
You should beat up that nasty piece of crap right now, just like that let's you sit and rot longer than dirty socks! You get on this dude, and tell him that he's really missing out, and you make him beg on his hands and knees to apologize, but you just walk away and do the exact same thing he did to you.
NutMeg
NutMeg
I think you are right and he just doesn't know what it is like to be with a man. But have you thought that maybe he loves his girlfriend too and might be conflicted wanting to be with both you and his girlfriend. You should ask to meet him in person and try to have a honest conversation with him about how you feel and ask him about what's going on with him. Also urge him to talk to his girlfriend about how he is feeling because it might help him to understand it himself and also might help him choose between the two of you.
RainbowSparkle12
RainbowSparkle12
I think maybe he's confused. Maybe you were the first guy that he was ever with, and he had so much fun, but he is afraid to commit to a guy! Some people who are gay/bi/queer or whatever think that they should be normal and the only of doing that is hiding behind the opposite gender, when truly, this is 2017 and two girls or two boys is totally normal. I think he loves you, but he is terrified of what will happen is he sticks with a guy... hear me out, if you are a bisexual male...if you have a girlfriend, you have the power to call yourself straight and hide your liking for guys too...but if you are dating a guy, you can't hide anything and he's forced to show his true self. I feel like even if he says that he loves you, he still might be super scared to crawl back.,.maybe you should move on and find another guy who won't be afraid to show his true colors to other people besides yourself. Someone who isn't afraid to hide you from his friends and family! Hopefully this helps ;)