Bisexuality Support Group

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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JamesSoper
JamesSoper

Hello, I am new to this group and to the whole business of bi-sexuality. My wife and I have been married very happily for 8 years, and dated for 9 years prior to that, adn have a beautiful 5 year old boy. We have both considered ourselves straight for the entire time we knew each other. But just the other day I admitted to my wife that I fantasize about men and she reciprocated similarily saying that she is attracted to women as well as men. I am super happy that we both understand each other, but now I'm super paranoid! I'm so afraid that because I can't satisfy her like a women could that she'll cheat on me. Of course this is ridiculous because she could be thinking the same of me. But she seems so confident! I've been cheated on before so that doesn;t help, also, I am my wife's first and only sexual partner. We talked about bringing in someone else to the mix (probably a female as she's worried about aggresive menin the bedroom) but agreed that it could do unrepairable damage to our family. What if one of us fell in love with this third person? What about disease? I can't seem to get over this jealousy though. The thought of her leaving me kills me, but i just want her to be happy...I thought coming out would make me free, but now I feel like I'm trapped in a proson of my own anxiety. Has anyone else felt this way?

Judahpraaz
Judahpraaz
I think it is natural for you to have some jealousy. My wife and I are in a similar situation. We have been looking into getting a sister wife because I am a trans man which means I was born as a female but now live my life as a man. We met when I was still living as female and she fell in love with the feminine side of me. I now take testosterone and she says I have changed. I no longer act like a woman. To be honest I don’t think I ever did, but I did at least look like one. So now she only sees me as a man. She misses the touch and essence of a woman. Since my transition I have been suffering from penis envy and I have been desiring to be with a man. I have never had the desire before but now I do. We have discussed this and she is okay if I do just as I am ok if she does. I love my wife and have no desire to leave her or to ever be with a man romantically. It would be strictly raw animalistic sex. I love woman and am very much attracted to women so I am all in for the second wife. I have no jealousy whatsoever. As much as I want to be with her I want her to be happy. If someone else is able to do that then I will not stand in the way of that. I just ask that we maintain a friendship. I don’t ever want to lose her. Having as a friend would be just as good because the only difference would be sex which we rarely have anymore. I have started looking into polyamorous relationships because I like variety and I realize that I would do well even better with a tribe made up of both men and women. I look at it this way if we are meant to be then we will be. No one can take her from me if someone does then obviously she was never mine to begin with. I want something organic not traditional or habitual. Let’s stay together or not because we enjoy each other not just because we are married and suppose to. I hope that helps please feel free to ask any questions you may have about being best wishes!transgender or anything else.
JamesSoper
JamesSoper
Wow, thank you, this helps quite a bit. I had another talk with my wife last night so that she knows how I'm feeling. I had some horrible things done to me as a child and adolescent, so coming out has triggered some memories i that i had buried deep down. Just need to keep working on myself