I've really done it this time, I've gotten so far in the doghouse, I can't even see the door. This last weekend, I told my wife that I had some needs that no woman could meet, and I wanted her permission to have a relationship with a guy. Yeah, that went over well, NOT. But, I have to say she is doing better than I thought. She knows I'll never leave her, she knows that she is the most important person in the world to me. She knows I'll give up everything in my life before I let her go. Tied for what has her the most upset is that I have some needs that she can't meet. She wants to be able to meet all my needs, as I do her and as any married couple should strive for. The other thing is the thought of me being sexual with another man.

I have promised her all I want is an emotional connection with another man. Of course with women the emotional is more serious than the sexual. I want to have coffee with someone a couple times a week, that's it, I even told her if it would make her feel better, I would only meet in public places. Out of respect, and love for her I have told her I would wait until she had time to get over the initial shock, before I contacted anyone. What I haven't told her yet, this will come when I get ready to contact someone is that on the first meeting with someone, I want her to go. I want her to know the person I'm meeting, I want her to feel comfortable with the person I meeting, if she has any legitimate concerns about the person there won't be a second meet, I said legitimate concerns. I don't know if she will be willing to do that, but I feel like if she meets the guy she will be more comfortable with him.

But now my ideal situation would be that she introduces me to someone she has meet and likes, and then she is highly involved with my relationship with him, and eventually the tree of us end up in one big relationship. I've had a relationship like that before, I had a "wife" and a "husband" at the same time, we all lived in the same house, even the same bed. We did have a guest room, if someone wanted to be alone, one night they could. It was great I got all the emotional things I needed from a woman, and all the emotional things I needed from a man. Not to mention the sex between the three of us was great.

But for now I'm stuck in the doghouse, and it don't look like I'm getting out anytime soon.