I can 100% relate to this! I'm 24, female, and started questioning my sexuality when I was in high school. I had only ever liked men. I went to church every Sunday, my family was very religious. Then some of my friends started coming out as gay and I got scared. I loved these people, and my pastor told me that they were wrong, and sinful. MANY pastors, clergy members, and other religious professionals are VERY supportive of the LGBTQ+ community, but there are still those who are not supportive, and unfortunately, the un-supportive people were the only people I knew. It was all very confusing, and it took me a very long time to come to terms with where I fit in.

When I got to college some pieces to the puzzle started to come together and I met a lot of LOVELY religious people who accepted me just the way I was. My religious views have changed a bit, but I know I have a community of kind people in my life.

Some people say they "always knew" they were gay, but for most of us it's a long process. I think that's especially true for bisexuals. I remember thinking, "I'm not gay, I have a boyfriend!" but the reality was "I have a boyfriend and maybe someday I'll have a girlfriend!".

It's possible to be physically attracted to both men and women, but only be romantically attracted to one. Its' possible to have a one-time attraction to the opposite sex, and then never feel that attraction again. It's possible to be a full on bisexual or pansexual and be attracted to many different types of people!

My advice would be don't rush yourself into a label. There are a lot of different people in this world and as long as you are kind to others then we should all be happy you're a part of it. :)

Of all the people you love, be sure to love yourself.

Thank you so much for your response. It feels so good to finally talk to someone who's been where I am. I've kinda told my parents, but they nodded it off not wanting to believe it. I've talked to my dad more about it and he said that with where we live and all that it could have serious repercussions. Should I come out or would it be better to just hide that part of myself? Also, if you don't mind me asking, did and how did you tell your family and how did they take it?

I'll send you a message and we can keep talking! :)

Alright, sounds good.

Hi, I know exactly what you are feeling. I am too a Christian and am certain my same sex attraction is making me believe I am bi.
I have struggled with this since my adolencent youth, I was seduced by an older make cousin, it did confuse me at first. But as I got older I realize it is really up me to decide on this direction or not. I do have some experience with men that I have to admit has not been so terrible, but rather very enjoyable. But still, you would be better off not going any further unless you are willing to accept the changes it can leave you with. Hope this helps, your friend always.