hey, not sure I'll be much help, but I'll try. I went through a bit of that when I was younger. Went from thinking I was straight, to bi by 14 (more confirmed at least bi by 15), to lesbian by 17 (and lived as such for sometime), but then desires for boys/men returned; so came to the conclusion I was a 'lesbian leaning' (for lack of a better way to put it) bisexual woman. Everyone is different and not everyone is clear cut one or the other (and there can be changes/fluidity over time). So the question is, have you been with both guys and girls, and based on that, do you have a strong preference? Do you find you just don't have any clear/strong desire for guys anymore or its waning?

Thank you so much for replying! Yes i have been with both girls and guys and i have have a preference for girls but now idk ice i have any feelings for guys because i feel like it's just cycles with guys like i think they're attractive then when it comes down to sex I'm like oh yeah we got to do this

Well it may take time for you to tell where you stand with your sexuality. From my understanding you have an interest in men and women more so women than men but that makes you Bisexual. You are only a Lesbian if you have no desire to be with a man in a sexual way. I am Bisexual and I dated a Lesbian. Most of my life I lived a Heterosexual /Straight life. I always knew I was attracted to men in a sexual way. when I was 27 I fell in love with a woman and we had a 4 year relationship. I was surprised when I discovered that I was attracted to women as well as men sexually. My ex girlfriend is a Lesbian but she started out dating men and living a Hetero life. But she found that her attraction to women was much stronger and that she no longer had the desire to be with a man in a sexual way. She is now living the life of a Lesbian. We are not together anymore because she thought that like her I was going to lose my desire to be with a man.And just settle down in a Lesbian relationship with her. She wanted to marry me. But not only am I Bisexual and my desire for men is not going anywhere. I am married to a wonderful man. Even though my husband and my ex girlfriend were aware of my marriage and romantic relationship with my girlfriend and were both consenting to be in a relationship with me. I knew that I was not going to leave my husband. I knew that my desire and attraction to men would always be there as well as my desire and attraction to women. Some people don't believe that Bisexuality really exist they think you have to choose one sex over the other and be Gay or Straight. The truth is there are Bisexual people people that are attracted to both sexes some start out as Bicurious because they are attracted to both sexes but they don't have experience being with both so they are not sure if they will like it or not they are still experimenting. I was Bicurious in the begining and then I experienced sex with a woman and being in a romantic relationship with a woman. And it became abundantly clear to me that I am attracted to both men and women and enjoy sex with both. There is no longer any question I am bisexual I tried both and liked both. To me it is like liking 2 flavors of ice cream chocolate and vanilla. I like chocolate and sometimes I am in the mood for chocolate, but I also like vanilla and have times when I am in the mood for vanilla. I have my days when a chocolate and vanilla swirl cone is what I am in the mood for. Being Bisexual it is not always that your attraction to men and women are on the same level. There are days that you maybe more attracted to men than you are to women or vice versa but one thing that remains constant is that even if you are attracted to one sex more than the other some days you are still attracted to both. It is important to let anyone that you are in a romantic relationship know that you are interested or attracted to both sexes even if you may feel more attracted to one than the other. You need to be in a relationship with someone that is accepting of you being Bisexual and that can handle you being romantically involved with someone else a man or a women. It is important not to get in a serious romantic relationship with someone and not tell them that you have Bisexual attraction because they have to know that you may desire to be with someone else. It is not good to hide the fact that you are Bisexual or Bicurious to someone that you are in a serious romantic relationship with. I know what it is like to be in 2 relationships at the same time that were successful both partners knew and agreed to stay in the relationship. The only reason why my relationship ended with my girlfriend is because she thought I was something that I am not. She thought I was a Lesbian. She was expecting my experience to be the same as hers when it wasn't she decided to persue a relationship with a woman that is also a Lesbian. I thought that it was a bit odd because I never told her that I was a Lesbian and she knew that I had a husband so I'm not so sure what made her think I was a Lesbian. Anyway I have given you alot of information. I hope it helped you can message me or friend me and ask me any questions about the Bisexual lifestyle I would be happy to answer any questions that you may have.

I have had sex with both and I'm just confused but i think i understand what you're saying and maybe you're right that i am bi and some days i feel one way more but I'm confused because i feel like a guy is cute or attractive then if we get in a relationship and hey wanna sleep with me I'm like oh fuck i forgot that's gotta happen

Bear in mind "bi," "gay," "lesbian," and such are just labels. They are handy for referring to yourself and can be a good frame of reference for personal exploration. But, in the end you're just human and attracted to whomever you're attracted to. Love whom you love and don't worry about having a word for it if it gets in your way.

That said, there is a lot of confusion and erasure surrounding bisexuality. Many people will assume if you are in a heteronormative relationship you are then "straight." If you are in a same-sex relationship you are "homosexual." The fact is you can be in either and committed and still be bi. Bisexuality is simply the matter of attraction. Your attraction is more the deciding factor for what label you might choose to use than your actions.

As is said in Zen Buddhism, "The finger pointing to the moon is not the moon." (That is, the path to enlightenment is not enlightenment itself.) You are the moon. The word you choose to use is the finger pointing to you.

Hm. That’s interesting.