You are worried because the relationship just became better than before and you know his past thoughts. Two girls don't bother him AS MUCH as two guys. He still make homophobic comments. These are the things that are in the back of our mind and until there is a some more improvement in that area you will be worried for awhile. Your his actual daughter not one that he treats as part of the family and that scares you. I know it would me.

Hey Sierrawr, I'm pansexual too. And believe me, I can totally relate to your problem. I am nowhere close to telling my parents either. But I've noticed that parents have a tendency to let go little by little, as one grows older. I believe, or like to believe, there comes a time when they accept the fact that we are in control of our own lives.
Hang in there, the right time will come for you as well.

Pansexual was a new term for me so I had to look it up. I can understand too about opening up to the parents especially when said parents r very traditional in their thinking. I actually did tell my father that I was bisexual and he dismissed it as just being my brain's way of compensating for the shi*** way men have treated me in past relationships. That doesn't explain my feeling of attraction towards women that I have had since I was 15 which is way before I ever had a relationship w any guy.

Your post leading up to your question seems to say lots about what the answer might be. You are thinking the worst in regards to you relationship with your Dad ,as it is at the moment, if you let him in on your sexual orientation. If you were a boy, I'd understand the nature of your concern because he doesn't like two gay guys as a couple, but is fine with two gay women. But, what reason could he have for not approving your sexual orientation if he approves of your sister's sexual orientation without being guilty of hypocrisy, himself? And I'm aware that i don't know your Dad, and that for the first time you are having a more wholesome relationship with him. Spare the coming out scene with him for awhile. When you are out of the house and not under parental authority you can bring it out easier, if it is deemed wise. But if you do meet a girlfriend you'd have to tell him. That will be hard to keep hidden.

@survivor301 Just wanted to point out that her sister's best friend is the lesbian, not her sister. Parents can accept a lot from others that they couldn't accept with their own children. Sad but true.

I'm also pansexual, though I generally call myself bi out of simplicity. I completely understand your fear. I recently came out to my Mom and my 2 kids (14 and 9) as bi and poly. It's always scary coming out, regardless of specifics. People never seem to respond how you expect them to. I did it because I found 2 amazing women and hiding my feelings was making me miserable. So far reactions have been ok. But I didn't have somebody specifically homophobic.

Your concern about your relationship with your dad is very valid. This isn't something you have to rush into saying. Take your time to feel confident and strong in your sexual identity. Build a community support network to support you when you do come out. (Check out your local LGBTQ center.) Work on exposing him to LGBTQ through friends, discussions, etc. Discuss news when it involves LGBTQ.

You can wait to come out at least until you have a woman in your life (or other non-cis-male since you're pan!). One thing my girlfriends told me when I came out - Do not treat this as something you have to apologize for, defend, or explain. If you make it a big deal, it'll be a big deal.

Good luck!! I know this is hard, but it's wonderful that you're embracing your sexual identity so young. I can't promise everything will go smoothly and you'll be accepted for who you are. But I CAN promise you will be happier for being true to yourself.