I dont think you should worry about falling in love with a woman because you're bi. There'd be just as much a chance of you falling in love with another guy if you were straight, people are people, just because you're bi doesn't mean you need both at the same time. Its a good thing you can talk about it with him and great that he's accepting.

The only thing I would say though, is if you are wanting to experience a relationship with a woman, is it wise to rush into a relationship with this man? Just because he's there and everything is good "on paper" doesn't mean you should continue, sometimes your hearts just not in it and if you are wanting to experience the love of a woman, it probably isn't for you.

I hope this makes sense lol, hope i helped also x

I'm not going to argue with anything Georgina said, she was right on everything.

The question is how do you feel about him now? Do you think there is a chance that you could have a future with him? I know some bi people that date whoever comes up when they are looking for someone, I know other bi people that say they are bi, and will occasionally date someone of the opposite sex just enough to say they are bi, but they are only willing too accept a gay relationship long term, which group do you fit in? I'm not saying the second group is bad, or there is anything wrong with that because there isn't, of course then there are the bi people that only date opposite sex, and will have gay sex if they are horney and don't have someone of opposite sex.

Back to the subject at hand, are you willing to take a chance that you might fall in love with this guy and want to spend the rest of your life with him? Or do you just want to date a girl, either just to know what it's like, or because you think you might be more comfortable with a girl, or any other reason? If you are just completely determined to date a girl no matter what, then you shouldn't date this guy, that would not be fair to him. But, if you are willing to forget the girls if things work out with him, then give him a chance. This is your decision, I can't make it for you, but I can give you something to think about.

Thank you for responding. I guess where I get "stuck" at emotionally is that I am both VERY strongly emotionally & physically attracted to both men & women. It makes me very sad to think about never being with a woman...almost to the point of crying actually. But at the same time, I feel like Jon is just so wonderful & so loving & so good... I'd always be wondering what might have been if I'd never given us a shot. Make sense? And I do love him. I just don't know.

Sounds like you are going to be wondering no matter what you do. That is a tough place to be in. Just decide what you want more, him or 'her". I know that is a tough decision, but it's the one you have to make. If I can help anymore let me know.

To answer your question rk, I fall into neither "group". I have had feelings for women all my life, but never acted on them. I have dated 3 men. One of them I was engaged to. I honestly think I could be emotionally invested in a relationship with either sex.

You might want to talk to Jon, explain your confusion, tell him you think you need to date a girl at least one time so that you know for a fact that you want to be with him. Say that you don't want to be unfair to him in the future by deciding a few years from now that you just have to do it to find out if it's what you want. Because that would be really unfair to him later. Let him know how much you care about him, and you don't want to hurt him, that is why you need to do this now, before things get any more serious between the two of you.