Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.
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i have been having gay urges since i was 12 but i suppressed them till i was 18 at which point i brought my first realistic sex toy and had lots of fun.im know 21 and have a girlfriend i like girls a lot, my first friends were girls. but like 60 percent of the time im horny i think a bout guys i find some guys attractivei even think about what i want to do them. but that being said i still love my girlfriend with been through some hard times together and i know shes head over heels for me. its just some times i feel like im leading her on and ignoring who i am but the rest of the time i feel happy and straight, i still have sex toys and use them when i can, i told her i had urges and as it turns out shes a bit homophobic..... but we worked through it and agreed to try to make it work only know well im kinda stuck i dont want to break her heart and i dont want to lose her but i also want to see were this other side takes me im a pretty pessimistic guy and i get the feeling i would be happier if i at least try ed it with another guy.
any thoughts would be helpful
thanks for you help
i have been having gay urges since i was 12 but i suppressed them till i was 18 at which point i brought my first realistic sex toy and had lots of fun.im know 21 and have a girlfriend i like girls a lot, my first friends were girls. but like 60 percent of the time im horny i think a bout guys i find some guys attractivei even think about what i want to do them. but that being said i still love my girlfriend with been through some hard times together and i know shes head over heels for me. its just some times i feel like im leading her on and ignoring who i am but the rest of the time i feel happy and straight, i still have sex toys and use them when i can, i told her i had urges and as it turns out shes a bit homophobic..... but we worked through it and agreed to try to make it work only know well im kinda stuck i dont want to break her heart and i dont want to lose her but i also want to see were this other side takes me im a pretty pessimistic guy and i get the feeling i would be happier if i at least try ed it with another guy.
any thoughts would be helpful
thanks for you help
I think using toys has nothing to do with your sexual preferences; having said that, you seem to like guys too or maybe you're physically more attracted to guys and emotionally more attracted to girls (?).
If you really like her I don't think you're leading her on, but I think that if you feel that you need to explore your "gay" side you won't be comfortable in a relationship with her. I think we have the right to explore different things but I don't think you can do both things at the same time (e.g. be in a relationship and try different things with other people).
If she's homophobic and you turn out to decide you also (or exclusively) like guys, then she's either gonna have to deal with that or you're not gonna be able to have a relationship.
I'm also 21 and have very little experience with guys and girls really, but deep down I know I like both, I just haven't figured out -how- much I like each gender and I'm also trying new things whenever I can. Do know that I'm here if you ever want to talk or something :)
Take care!
Like you I love my husband and will never hurt him but not sure if I can go without!
I try to suppress but some days it gets me depressed and angry at my self for not exploring.
We have talked about it after his shock towards by bisexual attractions he is coming around. Talking helps me but confuses the hell out of him. We have talked threesome but we are not there yet.
Hope you can find a balance in your life I know I am still struggling to find it.
Pinky