Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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Why can't I learn

octobermom79
octobermom79
Why can't I learn to keep my mouth shut. My husband had something important to do today. He asked if I wanted to go with him. Since he said something that hurt me earlier I lashed out. Then when i could have made it better I just made it worse.

Now my husband is saying that he isn't going to talk to me about how he feels anymore. I really messed up this time. I don't understand why I constantly push him away when we don't agree on something.

I am so tired of being a screws up. I don't think I will ever get over the mood swings.
Nester4U
Nester4U
You are not a screw up. You are human and made a mistake.I'm sure your husband will come around again to telling you about his feelings. After all he messed up too by saying something that hurt your feelings. HUGS!!
olenka1
olenka1
Communication is the key. Maybe you both need to learn how to communicate better with each other. You are not a screw up. You both made a mistake but if you value each other it will soon be forgotten about & you can both move forward. I hope things get better soon.
MayB
MayB
I agree Octobermom we all make mistakes the key to a relationship with anyone is how me forgive and move on...

I know it sounds easy! Nothing wrong with apologizing and trying harder to be aware of your reflexive responses we all do that!

And we all can get better at it!
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you October....It's nice to see you back... Have you two ever gone for couples therapy??... I know your problems have been going on for a very long time... Perhaps getting some help to function better as a couple might help...x
sadiegirl13
sadiegirl13
I'm sorry you and your husband are struggling right now. My fiance and I have some communication issues that have been causing a lot of fighting, and we started couples therapy a few weeks ago. If you are both willing to commit to the work, and forgive each other for mistakes that are going to happen along the way, it can be really helpful.
dobiedots
dobiedots
You need to find out why you react to him the way you do.
Are you in therapy? It's SOOO helpful!!
irishwriter
irishwriter
you're definitely not a screw up! with a five month old baby things cannot be that easy anyway. good to see you back. as jan asked did you get or are you getting any counselling? everything will calm down later, it always does. a quiet cup of tea together and you guys can work it out. maybe talk to you pdoc ot tdoc as soon as you can and get things straight in your head. in the meantime vent here when you can. you are wonderful! big hugs.
sirsmiley21
sirsmiley21
your not a screw up. and being bipolar can really suck at times. you say things you dont really mean, words come out before you have time to think them through. If you go to couples thereapy be careful who you pick. I have been to a bad one that almost caused a divorce that wasn't there before. a good counselor is very helpful though.
usually time has helped us, and working on commication which is an onogin thing. baby stress rarely helps.
theatrediva
theatrediva
Yep been there. I go on and on saying the worst ting I cant think of to my fiance and then later I feel horrible and I know it cuts her deep.
octobermom79
octobermom79
Thanks for all the comments. I really need to find a therapist. The one I was seeing stopped taking my insurance.
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