Let me rephrase.....I do call names and lots of them!!! I just don't know what to do to calm down and stop this nonsense!!!

You can make a conscious effort to change your behavior. I used to have a bad temper and it was going to result in me getting badly beaten up so I changed. Good luck.

I do make the effort.....but then there are these explosive times that I have where I am just not very rational. How do I change that kind of behavior?? I am making some calls to find a therapist today....

I am the exact same way. I can control it 99.99% of time. When I can't seem to control it I have to walk away and be alone. I know this sounds kind hoaky, but listening to Limp Bisket's Break Stuff and other head banging music as loud as I can stand it helps me. Also taking a really big stick and beating the crap out of a tree as also helping in the past.

I know it isn't the most healthiest way to deal with it, but it takes a lot to get me that mad any more. Good Luck!! I know exactly how you feel.

Thanks Sossie, nice to know people understand....looking up the music now!

I'm getting to old to keep feeling this way got to get to the route of this problem!!

I have a big problem with rage. It can be insane, irrational, and triggered instantaneously by things that really should be nothing more than minor annoyances. Taking Depakote helps me a lot. Sometimes I just go off by myself and tell my family to just let me be for a while.

Thanks morgaine, Depakote has been mentioned to me...but I've been pretty stable now taking the meds I am on now...took a while to find the right ones but it's been going well except for my anger issue here.
Glad it helps you!! And thanks for your response.....ox

I like to listen to Green Day, they are my go to when I feel aggresive I can just sing aloud to with them. But that isn't always available at the time of explosion point. Just walk away and take a Valium or something along those lines.

I come from a long history of women that could benefit from anger management - if it truly worked, which is another debate for another time.

When I was much younger my mom would go out to the woods by our house and throw glasses at a tree - it seemed to work.

I dont have that much energy so I just sit right here and scream - sometimes for 10 minutes if thats what it takes. I live alone so it doesnt much matter. I also slam the cupboard doors

Throw glasses at a tree? Good idea. I throw them at the wall which necessitates a clean up.

Well, I don't like breaking things because it makes me more angry that I've broken stuff, have to clean it up or replace it. I can't afford to replace glasses or plates.

Ever since my divorce I've used running to get out my angry energy. Or I should say... it is what I found that works for me. I don't always do it as I should... I've been known to hit myself in rages.. but when I do think of running it really does help me. I lose that explosive energy.

Sometimes it makes me feel more energized, but the energy converts from explosive rage, into something more positive. I also listen to music as I run. Here's my suggestions:

Korn
Metalica
Coheed and Cambria
Devildriver
Limp Bizkit
Slayer
Whtie Zombies (More Human Than Human)
Ugly Kid Joe I Hate Everything About You
Hope It Gives You Hell (can't remember who)

Or I listen to electro/rave music. I also like P!nk when I'm mad.

I understand and funny enough I use music to help defuse my anger sometimes too. The angrier the music the better it is (3 Days Grace, Seether, Drowing Pool, etc). Calm music just aggitates me more for some reason. If that's not available, I will take a deep breath and walk away. It's hard to do, but I've learned to do it over time. My Abilify has also helped limit the number of times and extremity that this happens.

Debs, I think all these answers are workable ones, including therapy, beating on trees (well...the poor trees) and therapy...I also like Tommymott's answer about Learning and changing.

I have not gone through so much rage as lately, and I See my buttons can still be pushed when I am backed into a corner and triggered, but there was a recent post that got me Thinking about why I still "do" certain things, and "don't" do other things any more.

I think I'll post about it...good luck to you. :/