Forgiviness takes time.
I forgive people because they did know any better.
I forgive because I want to put them out my mind.My mother was wicked abusive.
sometimes I feel sorry for her.

My mom always told me that when you hold on to the anger, it hurts YOU not THEM, she said anger is like a poison that will eat away at you from the inside out. And I have found that to be true. But on the other hand forgiveness doesn't always come easily. It also doesn't mean you are saying that the hurt or injustice inflicted is ok. Only that you are choosing to let go and move on.

I read once the best revenge is to forgive your enemies. I find this to be so true. Holding on to the anger allows them to continue hurting you, it allows them control. Forgiveness puts that control back in your hands. Forgiveness allows us to move on and heal the wounds inflicted upon us.

controlling my what? now im so angry.so angry that im cursing him. is not forgiving some kind of a defense mechanism?

i find forgiving so hard.. but my mother always told me what the other two posts say also. but its still so hard for me. i just always say ..fuck you and want to forget that person ever lived.. marie

For me I find "freedom" in forgiveness. Anger festers and manifests in very unhealthy ways. It infiltrates every aspect of your life without you even realizing it. The sooner you can work through something and let go, the less likely you are to manifest illness from it. Anger has been know to manifest in depression, rage, acting out, misunderstanding of others intentions, physical illness, sleeplessness and on and on.

Letting go of anger and forgiving allows you to move forward. We wont forget, just forgive. Some people feel that if they forgive they release the offending person from guilt. That is not true. What we actually do is release their control over us. By holding on to the offense, we allow others to have control over us in so many ways.

Anger destroys me and after having learned the importance of forgiveness and the art of doing it, I am a much better person for it.

Hope you can work through your struggles sweetie. Hugs

right im too angry i cant think of anything
i'm condemning that person to death.
and even if he will kneel down and beg,
ill just walk away
leave him when he needs you the most

can u blame me?
i dont wanna be scared

No one can blame you for feeling like this person does not deserve forgiveness. I don\'t know what happened to you, that you need to forgive, but you must. It may take time, but if you don\'t eventually forgive someone, it will literally eat you away inside. It\'s been proven emotional upset can cause physical ailments. It\'s you that benefits from forgiveness. Someone else posted that the best revenge is to forgive. It\'s true.

Spiritually, forgiveness gives us the power over our emotions. I like to think about it this way, if someone has done something wrong to me, I try to picture them as a baby. Born innocent. Then raised to be what they are now. It\'s almost fate.

All situations are presented to us to learn some kind of lesson. Maybe your lesson is to let go of anger and try to find peace of mind concerning this situation.

Here are some lyrics I really like. Believe it or not, these are from a Beastie Boys song.

"I Give Thanks For This World As A Place To Learn
And For This Human Body That I Know I\'ve Earned
And My Deepest Thanks To All Sentient Beings
For Without Them There Would Be No Place To Learn What I\'m Seeing
There\'s Nothing Here That\'s Not Been Said Before
But I Put It Down Now So I\'ll Be Sure
To Solidify My Own Views And I\'ll Be Glad If It Helps
Anyone Else Out Too

If Others Disrespect Me Or Give Me Flack
I\'ll Stop And Think Before I React
Knowing That They\'re Going Through Insecure Stages
I\'ll Take The Opportunity To Exercise Patience
I\'ll See It As A Chance To Help The Other Person
Nip It In The Bud Before It Can Worsen
A Change For Me To Be Strong And Sure"

My hope is that you will find forgiveness of yourself as well.