Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

I hope you connect just fine on whatever you take!
My first round made me somewhat apathetic, but what I'm on now - Seroquel XR and Wellbutrin XL - works really well at keeping me right where I want to be. I hope you find that as well.
But having been on APs I think the big thing with feeling dulled is the dosage. If you start to feel dulled, you can always talk to your doc about tweaking it. I also agree the Abilify is a much mellower AP than some of the heavier ones like Risperdone (man that knocked me out!). Seroquel made me drool (nice!) and some people here have had bad experiences on it.
I've heard Geodon is good but it's expensive- I think it's newer.
of course some meds do others different, take that formula, add those numbers to you "Really" don't want to be take meds...
Odds are against your going to get a satisfactory answer : )
Trial and error, if the med sucks - tell pdoc and get another one! If it doesn't work, you DID learn something...... you don't want to take that one AGAIN