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PaganSpirit
PaganSpirit
What does it mean to be alone? I am comfortable being by myself. I like my own company. I like spending time to myself indulging in activities and hobbies that interest me. Where am I going with this? Its hard to say, Im just babbling on and on right now just wondering if its ok to be a loner yet feel lonely. They tell me stop spending so much time alone. They tell me to just go out and meet people and do things. They tell me to just shake it off..this feeling of loneliness and emptiness. What the fuck do they know! They sure as hell don't know me thats for sure. As I said, not sure where Im going with this but I do know I am a loner and I am lonely. Im curious, how do you deal with being a loner and / or feeling lonely?
sadiegirl13
sadiegirl13
I suffer from loneliness too, and I've always been a loner. I try to address it by spending time with just a few people that I'm really close with, like my fiance or my best friend. Not together, one at a time, but sometimes for me just having someone in the same room as me helps me to feel less lonely.
dizzynini
dizzynini
There's nothing wrong with being to be a loner. I'm kind of a loner myself, I like to take lunch at work by myself, go shopping by myself. I feel calmer.
Nester4U
Nester4U
"I walk alone" by green day used to be my favorite song bc I related to it so much and ultimately we all walk alone. I get lonely sometimes ofc but I generally like being alone. I have even felt MORE alone with others before too. I was never as lonely as I was in my last marriage and I can say it is MUCH better to be lonely alone than alone with a jackass!! God I sound like a bitter old woman!! I'm really not though he was jackass!! So much more peace now.HUGS PAGAN!!
SensitiveHoboLady
SensitiveHoboLady
I like alone time, but I can think back to a time when I was a bit too alone. I didn't trust anyone and it wasn't good because my depression hit so low during that period. It's something ive really worked on over ten years and I feel in a healthier place with it. I go places alone and don't have agoraphobia like ive experienced at times. I've always identified with being a loner, no doubt about it.
dancingd
dancingd
At heart I am an extrovert.
I used to love the company of people .
Not huge crowds, but I loved being around people .

Now days I get anxiety when I am in a group for too long.

I live quietly with my sister.

I feel lonely a lot
wiccanwolf1
wiccanwolf1
For me I have to draw a distinction between being a loner (being alone) and being lonely.

I am a loner by nature and enjoy the time I get to be alone, but I also live with my fianc and her son, whom I love very much.
Loneliness for me is that empty, feeling of not belonging whether I'm with Tats69 or not.
I usually deal with that loneliness by making myself talk about it, by letting others know that I'm feeling lonely and empty inside.
Suninbloom
Suninbloom
I now live alone, since I just moved into my new place this past month, and have recently separated from my mate. I get very lonely here. It almost feels like solitary confinement. I was going to go out to an art class today but I backed out of it. I'll try again on Thursday.. they're supposed to have a drawing class, even if it means that I force myself to go. I usually don't feel very comfortable around people I don't know. Everything is so new here, I know no one. Yes it really gets so lonely. I like my time alone usually, but there's a limit.
spacekat
spacekat
I think there's a huge difference between Being Alone and Feeling Lonely. I prefer to be alone but on occasion I do get lonely and long for someone's company. Whatever your pleasure, there is no right or wrong. Isolating is not just being alone. That is a horse of s different color.
theatrediva
theatrediva
I know all too well what its like to be lonely. When I lived in Chicago loneliness is what drove me to move home to Missouri. I couldnt take it anymore. Thank God I had my cat to help me some. Pets are a big help when you are lonely.
Desigol1979
Desigol1979
I am a loner, but I do communicate well with others. Maybe, because I'm Cancerian, I like my own wee shell.
irishwriter
irishwriter
I like to be alone a lot but i used to be really good at keeping in touch with people. that has changed when i realised that nobody really keeps in touch with me and that makes me feel lonely and that i do not like. i try not to rely on other people much in life so there aren't too many disappointments. I hate it when people say 'you need to get out more'. i do the best i can. hugs pagan - we are lucky we have DS.
joneszy93
joneszy93
I use to be pretty extroverted, but now I'm pretty introverted. I like being around people, but I also like being alone, it's how I can recharge myself. But I do get lonely at times, especially when my depression is spiraling down. Sometimes it helps to be in the same room as someone to feel less alone or even getting out and about just to be around people helps too. For the most part, I don't mind being alone though.
dobiedots
dobiedots
wee shell! To cute!
spacepony
spacepony
I'm happy being alone most of the time. It suits my nature. However, my social anxiety is borderline severe, and therein lies the lonliness. I would love to have a few more good friends and be ok in a group if need be. I get agrophobic and would love a few people to visit. I have only one friend I feel that comfortable with. A portion of my solitary time is in deference to this anxiety disorder. Fortunately I have a spouse and child with who I feel safe going out.
bbipolar
bbipolar
I get horribly lonely and I am half introvert and half extrovert. I need people though that s for sure. Even if I just go grocery shopping at least I'm seeing other people. Otherwise I isolate and pull the covers over my head listening to the dumb soap operas on T.V. That's the worse and I've done it for months at a time sometimes. Right now I'm even keel, but still don't have friends. I have a job subbing and am taking a floral class that I love. That's serving me well I get my daily dose of people and projects and things to do.
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