Just want to send you live and hugs honey.

Why lie about it? Isn't letting yourself lie about it giving your mother more control than you can afford to give up? A simple, honest statement about not being able to handle the crowd should suffice.

Don't mind me. Just opining. Although. . .

That biz about hating yourself and being sure no one wants to be around you seems worthy of an opine as well. . .

Keep sorting, TC. Your answers are in there.

I don't get invited to my family's Thanksgiving but my children and I already celebrated because no one could get off work this week. But, it isn't easy during the holidays I understand. I hate you can't go and enjoy being around others but I don't think I could either. Having a large group of people crammed into a house would have my anxiety through the roof. I hope you find a way to have a great holiday and not have to be alone!! Hugs.

I have my son John, and no other family so we have a very quiet Thanksgiving. Last year our relationship was So Bad we didn't have Thanksgiving together. I think I was a bit manic, but I took myself off to the beach and walked around...the day wasn't too cold. I did make the effort to cook a turkey for myself and all the fixings, down to gravy and pie.

To put a more positive spin on your thinking, like Arfie I think your depression is clouding your opinion of yourself and how others view you and relate to you. I also agree about being honest with your Mom, simply to empower yourself and maybe wake your Mom up about how you are thinking and feeling about spending time with family. Perhaps you could go over and have dinner after the crowds are gone and spend time with your Aunt and Uncle/Mom.

Weight issues are So Hard to deal with due to medications we take and the emotional upheaval we can live with due to bp and the world at large. Sadly you are right about Some people, but thinking you are really mad at yourself and want to make a change and feel overwhelmed starting. Please come and join me and Spacecat, so far, as we work to change our lives due to bp challenges of food and exercise.

A while back, I requested a friendship with you, so You Do have friends here at Ds :-). Take care, and have the best day you can! ML

I'm sorry another year has rolled around and you are in a similar place as last year TC. Sometimes communities have a Thanksgiving dinner potluck...maybe there is one you don't know about.

I understand not wanting to be with family and I understand wanting to be alone....I'm sorry you have to spend so much time alone.

Hang in there TC.

I'm not going to do much for Thanksgiving this years. It will probably be just my son and I. His grandma is planning on going to the casino. I haven't heard from my dad yet about any plans. The rest of my family celebrate with their own family and/or inlaws. I wish you lived near me so I could invite you our place. Big hugs.