I don't have BPD, but I have similar abandonment issues.

When I feel rejected or start feeling like I am going down

I sit someplace quiet and talk out my fears .
I try to use logic, and assure myself that the abandonment is not personal, or {in most cases} intentional.

I also speak out load, the things I am grateful for

I have abandonment issues as well. When my therapist was out for 2 weeks, back for 1, then out for 2 more it affected me so much. I also use logic to try to get through it.

I'm sorry you'll have to get someone new. I hope s/he will be just as good as the one leaving

Will you be seeing someone else quickly dogwood?... This is something that you could work on with a new therapist... Big hug for you sweetie...x

t hanks to you both. I'm at my wits end. I can't get it out of my mind. I obsess over things. Before she left she set me up with another case manager who just happens to be her best friend. So, she will still be keeping in contact with me through her and she also said she is going to keep in touch with me through e-mail. She called me yesterday to tell me all this. So, I feel less abandoned than when I first found out. I have met with the new lady twice before when My lady was out. She is nice. I see her once a week when she helps facilitate my support group. However, we have two different personalities, so I don't know ho that will go.

This might end up being a blessing in disguise.... You'll be working on a big issue (abandonment) with the help of your therapists literally while she's moving to her new position with your old therapist and your new therapists help and support... This actually 'just might' turn out to be something really therapeutic for you dog.... I hope it will be...x

I will be still seeing my regular counselor who I've been with 3 1/2 years. My case manager that is leavings job was to help me understand my diagnoses better in relation to my alcohol dependency. She has worked very hard to get me me to stop binge drinking when I am either stressed out or having a Bipolar episode. I was binging once or twice a week. I have been sober now for 8 months. I also haven't cut my self in that length of time. She has really turned my life around, tha is why I am so upset about losing her. My first thoughts were to drink and cut, but so far my counselor has kept my mind from taking action on those feelings. I just don't know if I will be able to not compare how the new Case manager will do things with my past case manager. It just hurts so bad because we had grown so close.

Sometimes it can be beneficial to have a new therapist, because you get a fresh outlook on things.You could do some work with her on abandoment issues maybe.You never know she might be even better than the person you had before.