I realized I just contradicted myself. What I mean is that sometimes when it's a huge party people invite me to go (like when they invite every single one of their facebook friends), but when it is only a small group or one or two people they don't invite me.

I don't have a lot of advice..I loads older than you, but I come across the same problem.

I'll have a dinner party, invite people , maybe some do show up..many times most people do not show up

and I never receive return invites

I'm a pretty likeable person, can hold an interesting conversation...I really don't know what the problem is .

I live in a VERY small town..maybe that has something to do with it ...I'm not part of the "In Crowd" ?

I would just concentrate on your studies..you have a whole lot of life ahead of you to connect and make some real friends !

i think getting shot down and rejected is a part of life for all of us-i know i do and i'm a very sociable person-i think the best advice is don't take rejection personally and keep on moving and trying new things and new people-thanks for the post

It can be hard to take the initiative sometimes..
What about joining a club or some type of school activity to meet people..
Maybe you could invite someone you're acquainted with out for lunch or coffee??
Perhaps pull up a seat in a lunchroom or ask to sit with someone you've met..
Someone has to take the lead to start new friendships.. Once you get to know someone a little you're on your way
Great big hug for you...x

When my friends... n I host dinner partys n get togethers.
For dinners, we have setting arrangements w name cards.
I have hunting n fishing buddys n some diva's na I'm not going to invite someone who lives to shop to hang out oh lets say at Brass pro store or go hunting/fishing w my hunting/fishing n gun range buddys., who going to half to babysit n walk on egg shells.
I'm sure not going to directly or indirectly invite a tatooed face rings baggy pants wearers to formal get together. Like place card sitting what would guest arangements have in common to talk about w ea other. I hope you know what I'm trying to convay.
Now if a freind gets invite to dinner party/social event n host n I somewhat know/know of ea other, n I didn't get invitertation n I wanted to attend ( only if it's going to be quite a few people) I would say something to my freind who recieved an invertation who would call n say something to host n more than likely the host will make arrangements to accomidate me n indirectly invite me. That's how that works.
It doesn't bother me if I don't get a direct or indirect invite when I want.
My friends n I have freinds that we don't want to hang out w ea other certain friends.
That doesn't mean that we're not polite.
I have nothing in common w woman who insist on talking about thier home life or person thinks that WMart has current fashions. A coule mo's ago a someone of a freinds neighbour ( stranger )who shops at WM n want's to hang out in my circle cloths, insisted on going to WM. anywho I went because I had to c if gril was lieing. My friends n I where shocked to c that there really r shoes that soles r glued on :0 lol. I don't want to hear about thier babys poop. N I don't wanted to be seated at same table at dinner party w someone oh lets say lives for tatoos n brags about drinking. Know what I mean.
If u have time n funds u could host something like wine n chesse tasteing party every other mo or every 6 mths, n you could have cook out get togethers or pot luck dinners n if u opt u could find a couple of people to go lets say bowling every other wk.
I enjoy the company of others but I also enjoy my own company.
If you need for certain friend to tell you why she/he didn't invite you to go to a certain get together w couple of other freinds, simple ask her/him w/o offending them n w/o comeing across as being needy.
More than likely she/he will invite you to do more things w her/him/them.

It seems like we all go through that especially if we are bipolar. Times like that is why I love being hypomanic or just plain manic.

For me, I get depressed and sullen, isolate and want NOTHING to do with anyone, for a 100 different reasons... I tend to forget, that I tell people no, I don't answer the phone - I avoid trying...

So when I'm better and want friends - there is NO ONE to call... so the lesson I learned in life, from situatins like we are discussing;

If you want friends, you have to be a friend! That means you call them, you invite them anywhere to do anything - if they say "No" you don't take it as the end of the world, or I TRYED - that would be Bullshit - people can say No, and it does not mean they don't like us - or will not play with us at another time...

We make and lose friends and life moves on - but to sit alone, and frown that we don't have friends? That is the chicken or egg stuff..

If you want friends, be a friend - just like on HERE! if you never send a hug or post on others thread - you might be liked, but your not Socializing - making friends! We have to risk being hurt and disappointed, to get big rewards of LIVING a life, with PEOPLE - i.e. Friends..

I'm also on this journey, and I am always rewarded when I put myself out there. When down and depressed, I can sabotage every relationship, and everyone disappoints me..

To finish my rant : ) I want to be nice, and try to understand others - instead of the very human, very needy - always wanting understanding.... you need to understand lots of people feel like you, why don't you try and help someone else? You both benefit!