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She did it again...MOTHER DEAREST

TC40
TC40
I was talking to mommy dearest, and I was telling her that I had run into someone who knows the owner of the place I will be working for. And that she told me was a cool guy. MD says "I just hope that you can do this job, that you won't do anything to ruin it". O MY GAWWWD. I just said "ok, I am going to let you go now". She starts texting me, saying "I wonder why you get so mad at me all the time, I worry is all. I can try to stop?" I am tired of her constantly trying to sabotage me. I just texted her back and said "your concern comes across like I will do something to sabotage myself. So if you would like me to BE successful and are worried about it, you can maybe say "you held the same job for 13 years and I know you will do great with this job too, instead of saying "I hope you can do this job", etc...
cherylmcgr
cherylmcgr
I am sorry she could not just be happy for you. I wish you all the best.
sadiegirl13
sadiegirl13
Good for you for saying that to her. She is always trying to tear you down.... you are getting stronger TC... :) (((hugs)))
joneszy93
joneszy93
I'm sorry that she tries to sabotage you and not try to encourage you and be happy for you. I'm happy for you :)
SensitiveHoboLady
SensitiveHoboLady
Good for you for expressing yourself! My mom often says the wrong things and I just practice mindfulness around her and explain things in basic terms to her as to why her words hurt or offend me.

I'm really hoping this new job will be a great thing for you!
TC40
TC40
Ty guys. The thing is...I am afraid to even LET myself be excited. Between the job related crap that has happened over the past year and her BS, I have absolutely no confidence anymore.
MayB
MayB
Oh TC
I'm sorry about your Mom...

But I'm even sorrier you self confidence has taken such a beating....
BabyShelby
BabyShelby
The words of others that sting the most are the ones that hit close to our fears and/or weaknesses. Just remind yourself of your 13 years of job success and keep your self-taught positive and encouraging. You know your mom is a piece of work but it is what it is. I think if I were you I'd take a break from contact with her. It doesn't have to last forever -- just long enough for you to build your confidence and armour to protect you from her insults.
spacekat
spacekat
Oh TC - I have a stepmonster who treats me in a very similar way. She obliterates my self-esteem and then whacks me from every angel. I'm so sorry she's treating you so badly. What I do hope for you is that you're able to SEE and SEPERATE what she SAYS about you and what's TRUE about you. You are a bright, compassionate, understanding and feeling person who also happens to be competent, bold & forceful. Your reply to her text "So if you would like me to BE successful...." is EXACTLY what she needs to hear. I don't think she got it that time. Big hugs to you, TC - she needs a new hobby.
JennS
JennS
It's good you expressed your feelings to your mom about her behavior. May she take what you said to heart. Hugs.
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