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Second thoughts aren't real

SeptWedding
SeptWedding

My fiance and I have been living together with his little girl for 3 years now. He is better than anything I new could be real and his little girl is as much mine as any child of my own could be. But last night I had these thoughts of I'm stuck here and I'm bored.  These were not normal for me and sure enough I woke up this morning down. Not crashed just down. I couldn't tell him. I don't want him to be upset thinking he's the cause and he's not. I don't want my little girl to see me like this. Hopefully history will repeat itself and I'll bounce back in a day or two. 

tommymott
tommymott
The best thing I've found to control unwanted thoughts is Negative Thought Stopping techniques. This is a simple process where we insert an alternative thought to those that are bothering us. It can be a nonsense group of words or an affirmation and after a period of time it really works!

http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/positive-thinking-stopping-unwanted-thoughts
irishwriter
irishwriter
tommy is right, counteract that thought with all the good things you have been doing. hopefully this is a temporary glitch. it is good that you are monitoring how you are feeling so that you can deal with whatever comes up and maybe head off a crisis at the pass so to speak. talk to your pdoc or tdoc if you need to and please don't beat yourself up. we all have random negative thoughts that sneak in and we have to remember that bipolar is one hell of a good liar!
arfie
arfie
In my own head, boredom and getting stuck in ruts happen in the best of circumstances. When I can catch the phenom early and honestly, I can usually fix ^it^ with small tweaks. Sometimes those tweaks, like letting a 3 year old give me a tour of the yard, even make for a delightful time for all. I love 3 year old perspectives on life and adventure.

Gentle support while you find what works for you. Yay you for the awareness of what adult cycles can do to 3 year old vulnerabilities. Easy does it, Cap'n.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you SW...... There are tools to help you as others have said...... Remember a thought is not necessarily anything other then just a thought..... Let it pass through...... We all get bored at times..... Life isn't always exciting.... There's no reason to beat yourself up over it.... None at all........xo
SeptWedding
SeptWedding
thanks everyone for hearing me. I'm feeling much better after a few days and found that occupying myself and my little girl to be the little light I needed.
irishwriter
irishwriter
thank you for letting us know. i am glad to hear the good!
ritkat
ritkat
I'm sorry you are feeling this way. Mood monitoring, which goes beyond monitoring your mood and enters into combating the thoughts, has been really helpful for me in these situations. It's a CBT thing.
https://psychologytools.com/dysfunctional-thought-record.html


I hope something helps.
ritkat
ritkat
Oh my gosh! I missed your update. I'm glad things have gotten better. :)
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